"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dating older girls when you're underage...

FightinTiger

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Ok, I have an interesting situation. I met this girl at a party. We talked, I busted her balls a little bit it was great. Got her #. We talk a little on the IM and stuff and the phone, and we eventually go out on a date. It was great we went to the bar, got drunk, and ended up going to funky town that night. ;) not bad for the first date, huh?

Anyway, my delimma is this: she's 21..... and I'm 19.

She gets ME into bars. She shows ME a good time.

I can't take her to clubs, cause there aren't any in this town (at least none that aren't gangster clubs.)

Also, she lives in an apartment, and I live in a freshman dorm.

I mean, we have fun when we go out, but I kinda feel like the ***** of the relationship, the guy who's following her around like a puppy. I try to compensate with being extra ****y/funny and busting her balls, and it seems to work. Also, I try to be really busy (I have another over-21 girl that I date now and again as well, so any advice would help me with both of them).

however, I really feel self conscious when asking her out, cause it's always "well, what do YOU wanna do?" Ya know. I can't be the man, cause the MAN won't let me.

I'm afraid that eventually her attraction will dissipate. any advice on how to handle this?

and no, a fake id is not an option. I'm on the football team, and if I AM caught and arrested, it will be HELL to pay for me.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Phyzzle

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I really feel self conscious when asking her out, cause it's always "well, what do YOU wanna do?"
Well that has to stop!!

Really, there has got to be things to do other than bars. You should be suggesting the ideas for the 1st month or two. Restaurants/coffe houses/art galleries? House parties?

Don't ask her what she wants to do. Maybe this girl doesn't care, but I've known females who get kind of annoyed when YOU call HER, and you have no idea what to suggest.
 
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