"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jjbmonster

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I'm sleeping with this girl I really like been speaking to her for about a month now we've been on plenty of dates weve even got the stage of buying things for each other and $hit, but yesterday she confronted me and said she didn't want a relationship so then I walked her home and told her good night and that was that, then early this morning I get a phone call with her saying she is sorry can we talk about it I got to hers and she said she slept with someone she doesn't regret doing it but she wants to have another go at things, I know this sounds stupid but any help would be necessary I'm mindfu$ked and don't know what say or do cause I care and like her alot
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Bible_Belt

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I'm mindfu$ked and don't know what say

Well, the problem is that you let the cat of the bag on how you feel, I'm sure. If you had immediately been able to play it off like, "oh? we were exclusive?" it would immediately have been a non-issue. What did you tell her? That you want to think about it? It seems like you want a committed relationship and she is not ready for that, at least not yet. There's no shame on either end. It's up to you what you want.
 

SmooveMooves

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Keep fūcking her. No relationship. You don't 'really like her,' you just like the consistent sex. You should be talking to other women. I personally wouldn't try 'giving it another go.' Look at what she did with the first one.
 

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I haven't exactly told her how I feel about her yet still trying gain the courage do it but then at the same time she says she can tell and I didn't really say much about the situation I just said I need time and just been quite round her been 'different' around her as she put it, I just feel like waiting and see how it goes but I've lost any sort of trust I gained for her if you get what I mean?
 

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Oh it's good that you lost trust! I was expecting you crying over her. You know what I would do? I would not contact her and start looking at meeting other women. If she comes around, it's only as FB, if the sex was great, if it was average or bad, then not even that.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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marmel75

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I haven't exactly told her how I feel about her yet still trying gain the courage do it but then at the same time she says she can tell and I didn't really say much about the situation I just said I need time and just been quite round her been 'different' around her as she put it, I just feel like waiting and see how it goes but I've lost any sort of trust I gained for her if you get what I mean?
Dude, you don't ever tell them how you feel about them. That's a sappy, AFC move that will dry her pvssy up faster than a shopvac.

Show her how you feel about her by fvcking her senseless
 

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I'm sleeping with this girl I really like been speaking to her for about a month now we've been on plenty of dates weve even got the stage of buying things for each other and $hit, but yesterday she confronted me and said she didn't want a relationship so then I walked her home and told her good night and that was that, then early this morning I get a phone call with her saying she is sorry can we talk about it I got to hers and she said she slept with someone she doesn't regret doing it but she wants to have another go at things, I know this sounds stupid but any help would be necessary I'm mindfu$ked and don't know what say or do cause I care and like her alot
You were her plan b. She got pumped and dumped by the guy she was screwing when she was telling you she didn't want a relationship. Surprisingly she admitted it to you. Most girls just try to hide the fact of what they are doing
I would say you have 2 options.

1. Kick her to the curb. Don't be anyone's plan b.

Or
2. Demote this chick to 5th or 6th or 10th on your priority list. This chick is only good enough for plate or FB.
 

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I haven't exactly told her how I feel about her yet still trying gain the courage do it but then at the same time she says she can tell and I didn't really say much about the situation I just said I need time and just been quite round her been 'different' around her as she put it, I just feel like waiting and see how it goes but I've lost any sort of trust I gained for her if you get what I mean?
Never tell her how you feel. It murders challenge.
 
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