"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dating in the recession, has left a hole in my stomach.

Tiguere

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My mother calls me a dinner *****. I call myself a serial first dater. Either way, it feeds me. Or at least, it used too. I once fed myself by going on first dates for 2 months straight in an employment lull. I didn’t spend a dollar on lunch or dinner and only had to shell out dough when on the rare occasions I decided to eat breakfast. And because it was a first date, there was never any opportunity to have expectations of sex in exchange for dinner. I left happy and full, and he left none the wiser.

It is 2009. I am 24, and hitting my stride in the dating world, and along comes the recession. My dinner rotation was hit hard. All the sudden, men wanted to meet for drinks, but drinks didn’t fill my stomach. We also started going on “creative dates”. Dates that would be considered charming had dinner been a prelude to the evening. Walks in Central Park or trips to the bookstore were great, but I couldn’t focus on them due to the rumbling in my stomach. The classic combinations “dinner and a movie” or “dinner and dancing” was now just a movie or just dancing.

I know the recession had worldwide bigger implications than my dinner schedule, but my life and budget were hard hit causalities of the economic downturn. Now as the calender turns, and the economy doesn’t improve, I feel that I may miss out on the best dating years of my life. I no longer put forth the effort to even go out on dates. They are now a bad return on investment. I get dressed, I take a cab, all for a chat by the Seaport. So I have made the collective decision and advise other women to do the same– until we are out of this recession, put your dating life on hold.

http://scallywagandvagabond.com/2010/01/dating-in-the-recession-has-left-a-hole-in-my-stomach/

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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konmai

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Not treating women to a meal on a first date would be a good way to weed them out.
 

Burroughs

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:nono: then learn to cook biatch.
 

Zerro

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Burroughs said:
:nono: then learn to cook biatch.
Amen. My girl cooked for me on the 3rd date, that's one of the reasons I decided to keep her. It's stupid how many women think that it's beneath them to be able to take care of themselves.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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