Dating in the age of Texting

[bigneil]

Has this ever happened to you?

1) You go for a few hours without checking your cell phone.
2) You later check to find 5 messages from your gf and by the 5th a crisis has developed.
3) You respond but now she is already mad and you don't hear back until the next day.

How do you handle this situation?

 

[bigneil]

Examples:

Message 1: How r u? 6:49 PM
Message 2: What is for dinner 7:11 PM
Message 3: R u mad at me? 8:12 PM
Message 4: I hate when you ignore me. 8:49 PM
Message 5: I called u but I guess u don't want to talk anymore? 9:35PM

 

[synergy1]

i got that when I was dating and had to take time and set the precedent which was I wouldn't always be around to respond 24/7. There would be times when I would come back to like 3/4 emails and by the 4th its the 'are you mad at me? why aren't you responding'. Since texting and FB are such quick mediums to communicate, it ups people's expectations to be responded too...or more precisely, it lowers ones patience. A trend i notice in women in social situations ( guys aren't exonerated here either, but do it less frequently) is being inpatient in social settings and instantly defaulting to their phones for attention. With phones, one doesn't even need to work on being social in order to be out and about.

Also on dating new girls, if they break out their phones...HUGE points against them.

 

[bigneil]

Yes synergy1 it is huge points against them to have their phone out on a date. Unless they are taking pictures of you both together and emailing it to their friends and family, their cell phone shouldn't be out, and it shouldn't ring or even vibrate but have a light they can check. As this girl said after talking for a while "You made me forget all about it - that's a good sign".