Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
HAHAHA I forgot all about Zima, but it was the first booze I ever had. My neighbor stole it from his older sister, whose boyfriend had an IROC and we thought it was the coolest car ever lolsamspade said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
There's no doubt women's attitudes have gotten worse, but this seems a little counter-intuitive to me. I've always heard dating (or "hanging out", Squirrels, if you prefer) gets easier as you get older. And that's been my experience. I've found it easier to attract women as I've gotten older, and maybe more importantly, to keep them attracted.