Dating in early 30s

[ilikecharlene]

Is there any "key" to dating in one's early 30s?

 

[Desdinova]

A key to dating women in their early 30s is: watch out for the ticking biological clock.

Other than that, age is just a number.

 

[Die Hard]

The key to dating in your early thirties, is to FORGET that you're in your early thirties. YOU are YOU and YOU do whatever the fvck YOU wanna do, not what society dictates you to do according to your age group or some other bullsh!t like that.

I recently became 31 years old but I feel no different than when I was like, 24...so I don't ACT any different than I did back then either. I was at a bar two days ago and some chick started hitting on me, she was 33 years old... Later on, some other chick started hitting on me and that one turned out to be 16.

My point is: I was being ME all night long, whether with the 33 year old or the 16 year old and they both felt attracted to me just the same. What the fvck do I care how old I am? I AM not my age, I AM me... I do not ACT like my age, I ACT like myself. And that's exactly what bytches (whether they're 15 or 50) like, that you're confident in who you are, that you are your OWN man, instead of a fukking sheep who walks in line and says "beeeeh" like he's supposed to.

So stop wondering how you SHOULD act and start acting however the fukk you WANT to act. Don't ask yourself what others expect from you, but ask yourself what you expect from them. You are the PRIZE and all bytches of all ages need to prove their worth to you. What is the key to dating in your early thirties? FUKKING IRRELEVANT!! You shouldn't even think about stuff like that. ALL bytches from ALL ages should be worrying about what is the key to dating YOU. You lead, they follow...whether it's a teenage girl, a mature woman or society in general.

 

[HoneyHitter]

The key to dating in your early thirties, is to FORGET that you're in your early thirties. YOU are YOU and YOU do whatever the fvck YOU wanna do, not what society dictates you to do according to your age group or some other bullsh!t like that.

I recently became 31 years old but I feel no different than when I was like, 24...so I don't ACT any different than I did back then either. I was at a bar two days ago and some chick started hitting on me, she was 33 years old... Later on, some other chick started hitting on me and that one turned out to be 16.

My point is: I was being ME all night long, whether with the 33 year old or the 16 year old and they both felt attracted to me just the same. What the fvck do I care how old I am? I AM not my age, I AM me... I do not ACT like my age, I ACT like myself. And that's exactly what bytches (whether they're 15 or 50) like, that you're confident in who you are, that you are your OWN man, instead of a fukking sheep who walks in line and says "beeeeh" like he's supposed to.

So stop wondering how you SHOULD act and start acting however the fukk you WANT to act. Don't ask yourself what others expect from you, but ask yourself what you expect from them. You are the PRIZE and all bytches of all ages need to prove their worth to you. What is the key to dating in your early thirties? FUKKING IRRELEVANT!! You shouldn't even think about stuff like that. ALL bytches from ALL ages should be worrying about what is the key to dating YOU. You lead, they follow...whether it's a teenage girl, a mature woman or society in general.

Amen!

 

[vatoloco]

Is there any "key" to dating in one's early 30s?

What is it that you want out of dating in your 30s?

 

[Warrior74]

The key is to have fvcking fun. You have experience but not old age, you have maturity but aren't an old fuddy duddy, you have a wide age range to target from early 20s to late 40s. The key is to experiment as much as possible to see what's possible.

 

[theanomaly]

Dating over 30 is a bit different because of women's biological clocks. Lot's of women who have been divorced and have some baggage and bitterness too. I suggest going for the girls in their late 20s who are holding out for the right man still.

They have higher standards and aren't guided (as much) by their hormones. Where you go to meet women also makes a big difference. Chicks 30 and up have smaller and tighter social circles, so they're more open to meeting men in places outside of their circle.

They're also less prideful about where they meet a man, so they're more open to meet up groups, speed dating etc. Stay away from online dating though, waste of time.

Stay away from older chicks who still hit the clubs, they tend to be high drama and a little nuts. I'm 36 and these days I meet most women at Starbucks, at speed dating events and in meet up groups.

 

[Nutz]

I'm done dating women in their 30s. They're no better than women in their late teens and 20s, but have loads of baggage, tend to be jaded/cynical, and don't look as hot. As for maturity and trust and honor and loyalty and all that jazz, older women are no different from the younger ones. The biggest difference is that older women are more forgiving of beta males and aren't as selective so they're easier to pull, aka low-hanging fruit. My advice is try not to get taken in by their being easier to bang.

 

[ilikecharlene]

What is it that you want out of dating in your 30s?

just something long term. i'm looking for somebody older, closer to 40.

 

[ilikecharlene]

A key to dating women in their early 30s is: watch out for the ticking biological clock.

Other than that, age is just a number.

I agree, but I don't really want children ever. Since women these days are more comfortable in saying they don't like/want kids, i guess this is win for me lol..

 

[DMSR76]

I'm done dating women in their 30s. They're no better than women in their late teens and 20s, but have loads of baggage, tend to be jaded/cynical, and don't look as hot. As for maturity and trust and honor and loyalty and all that jazz, older women are no different from the younger ones. The biggest difference is that older women are more forgiving of beta males and aren't as selective so they're easier to pull, aka low-hanging fruit. My advice is try not to get taken in by their being easier to bang.

So true. I stopped dating 30-somethings a while back.

 

[vatoloco]

I agree, but I don't really want children ever. Since women these days are more comfortable in saying they don't like/want kids, i guess this is win for me lol..

In that case, concentrate your efforts on the hot/kept 40+ ladies out there. They WILL have baggage but if you can land yourself a 7+ with minimal baggage, no kids and who has kept herself in shape, you're good.

In this case, I WOULD recommend online dating. I just looked at my online market and there are tons of 40+ good-looking women in decent shape.

Now, whether they have issues, that's another story!

 

[Blackmm]

In that case, concentrate your efforts on the hot/kept 40+ ladies out there. They WILL have baggage but if you can land yourself a 7+ with minimal baggage, no kids and who has kept herself in shape, you're good.

In this case, I WOULD recommend online dating. I just looked at my online market and there are tons of 40+ good-looking women in decent shape.

Now, whether they have issues, that's another story!

A lot of those 40+ women who got it going on like that tend to be cougars. just an observation on my part.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

The biggest key is to be in shape. Most guys are out of shape with beer bellies once they hit their mid 30's. You'll have an instant advantage over your competition by hitting the gym and eating a proper diet. An in shape, childless, unmarried male with no baggage is going to be a hot commodity with the 30+ ladies.

I also recommend online dating. I'm not talking about trashy sites like POF, but sites that cater to older crowds like eHarmony or match.

 

[vatoloco]

A lot of those 40+ women who got it going on like that tend to be cougars. just an observation on my part.

That's why you'd spin lots of them to separate the wheat from the chaff!

 

[Nutz]

The biggest key is to be in shape. Most guys are out of shape with beer bellies once they hit their mid 30's. You'll have an instant advantage over your competition by hitting the gym and eating a proper diet. An in shape, childless, unmarried male with no baggage is going to be a hot commodity with the 30+ ladies.

I also recommend online dating. I'm not talking about trashy sites like POF, but sites that cater to older crowds like eHarmony or match.

I know a guy that's doing sugar daddy sites and is cleaning house. He reframes it from being a sugar daddy and them a prostitute to just being attracted to younger women and looking for women who are interested in older men as to why he uses those sites because they cater to what he likes. It helps he's loaded. He'll either pay for their gas to drive to his place, or he flies women into town for the weekend. They typically go out Friday night, head back to his place where she's staying, then he bangs them out all weekend and sends them back to wherever they came from. He's also had a few of them shoot porn for him which I guess he later sells to internet sites. Dude is a freaking evil genius! :rockon:

 

[Jeffst1980]

Your early 30's SHOULD be your prime dating years. I can't speak about women in their 30's, but I know that the hottest young women are STRONGLY drawn to men in their early 30's. It's like going back in time and dating the prom queen-- every day.

Other than the other stuff that was mentioned (stay in shape, build a little financial security), I'd say an important element is to find your own definition of maturity. You don't want to come off as old and out of touch, but you DEFINITELY don't want to come off as someone that desperately wants to fit in with a younger crowd. This means dressing and carrying yourself like a successful man and not a 'jersey shore' cast member. It's fine to acknowledge age gaps when dating younger girls, as long as it's done out of amusement and not insecurity. Even a 10 year age gap is not likely to be a big deal with a girl, as long as you can demonstrate an attractive personality.

You WILL be expected to have solid game, however. Younger guys can get away with a lack of game moreso than older men. You will find the "fool's mate" situation much harder to come by, and girls will EXPECT you to pass their s#it tests easily.

For older women, I would expect that maturity would be of paramount importance, and that game might even be detrimental. Game is really only optimized for hot girls in their early 20's.