"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dating Girls- Cliff Notes

Darth

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I have spent a lot of time away from this forum and doing things in the real world. Here are some tips I have boiled down on dating girls. It is a lot simpler than you guys think.

PART 1

THINGS GIRLS LIKE
-Confident and relaxed are the two biggest things
-Indifferent guys who don't care and don't like them too much ("challenge")
-Being told what to do and controlled, "taken"
-Guys who don't tolerate nonsense
-Guys who respond as opposed to react
-Determination
-Testosterone- like lion going in for kill
-Sense of humor is big
-Anger is sometimes entertaining to them

OK, that's basically all you need to know that's related to girls. If you have your act together otherwise, just take those ground rules, go out and just do trial-and-error until it works.

PART 2


But 99% of the problems you guys are having are NOT related to dating specifically. They are related to YOU.

If you actually want to get serious about being better with girls, you have to address yourself.

Do you have any issues:

-Physically? (are you overweight, do you exercise, do you eat nothing but junk?)
-Mentally/psychologically (did you have both parents at home growing up? Were they good parents? Did you have friends in elementary school? High school? What is your attitude like- are you a quitter or are you persistent? What is your self-respect like? What are your values like? Are you emotionally less than stable in any way? etc.)
-Spiritually? (Do you believe in God? Were you introduced to religion growing up?)
-Socially (Do you have friends? Do you have good basic social skills? Is there anything you could work on to make more friends?)
-Career (Are you working a job that you hate, or in a degree program that you hate? Are you miserable in what you're doing? Being good at his job is very important to a man's sense of value).


This will be controversial, but I think you will find that when you address THESE issues, as opposed to dating-specific issues, the girls will come automatically.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Although this is pretty short it's a nice guideline in my opinion.

It adresses you attitude, nessecary mental state and a desire to become a better self in physical, psychological and ''financial/job'' way
 

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Well, thank you.

I knew it would not be popular because it is not as easy or fun as spending an hour clicking on various threads and seeming to be getting somewhere but actually going nowhere.

But at least one person will read this, slap themselves in the face, and say "What the heck am I doing trying to learn these tricks? The real problem is that I'm socially retarded." :)

And then they'll start to get onto the right track.
 
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