"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dating game...BORING

G_Govan

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pyros said:
so this chick replied to my text today, almost one day later, here is the convo:

me: "hey X it's Pyros"
me: "how are you doing?"
her (one day later): "hi, Im good thanks. I wont go to dance salsa until Sunday"


Do you notice that I did not even mention salsa in my text? wtf?
I have to say that I met her in a salsa club, and before getting her number I asked her if she came everyweek etc, but I did not say a word about this in my short text.

I am planning to reply to her tomorrow, and send her either a mere pinnaple emoticon (just to mess with her head), or a few emoticons implying drinks and sex.

Thoughts?
She doesn't seem interested and you're delaying the inevitable. I figured you've done this enough to realize that women would rather you take the hint and disappear than come out and tell you directly. That or they string you along for attention and/or make you a distant plan B.

All that's required is she say "yes" to a date then you take it from there. Don't waste time trying to make her like you. You danced with and got her number, just ask her out and be done with it. The faster you do this the faster you can move on.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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stevo said:
If you text a girl and she doesn't respond in an acceptable time its natural to check just how much time's past since your message to determine your next move.
It's not healthy to obsess over it.

pyros said:
we all know that if we had a hottie by our side that gave us good sex whenever we wanted it, we wouldn't need to have 10 hobbies or other activities to keep us entertained and happy LOL.
I would much rather have no girl at all and a life full of hobbies/activities over a HB10 with no other hobbies/activities.

pyros said:
me: "hey X it's Pyros"
me: "how are you doing?"
her (one day later): "hi, Im good thanks. I wont go to dance salsa until Sunday"
Your text game needs work. You send two generic messages in a row. One is, "How are you doing?" Seriously?
 

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Yup....shoulda sent her that pineapple emoji from the start if anything
 

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Dude she spoke about Salsa, because thats the only reference she has of you. That's called a conversation. You're effing idjoot man. Giving up so quickly. Man up and chase her n1gga.

Bz
 

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I completely understand the philosophy about having hobbies, improving yourself...and then women, but we all know that if we had a hottie by our side that gave us good sex whenever we wanted it, we wouldn't need to have 10 hobbies or other activities to keep us entertained and happy LOL.
I don't agree, IMO you are short sighting the bigger picture. It may in the short run make us happy, but as the famous quote goes, point out a hot women and I can tell you about a guy who is tired of boning here (paraphrasing) Set your goals HIGH. Women are not my goal they are like money. My goal is to be the best version of myself
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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pyros said:
Anyway, I have to admit that THIS IS THE FIRST TIME I GET A GIRL'S NUMBER, TEXT HER, AND SHE DOESNT EVEN REPLY.
:crackup:

Reminds me of my first week on a dating web site back about 15 years ago. I carefully perused the sh*tty ads of the time and messaged a half dozen of the hottest girls on the site. Not one response. I said "I emailed 6 whole girls and not one response!"

Now when I online date I realize I get one lay for each 200 or so emails I send out.

The point is: OP, hit on more b*tches. Worrying about each single one is pointles.
 

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indeed weird. why the hell would she stare into your eyes, smile, give the number and would take so long to reply.
i hate texting games with all my soul. I prefer calling
 
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