"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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dennisjr2222

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I have some more questions for you DJ's out there.. I've searched this sight over and haven't really found a clear picture on how soon you should set up another date after your first one, second, etc? (i.e. you don't want to prematurely scare her off, right?)

Let me give you an example. Lets say you like a girl and ask her out. She is clearly interested and you have an excellent time together. You might even kiss her at the end of the date.

So some questions are, when should you ask her out again? Should you ask her out for the next weekend, or should you let some time go by for her to think about it and miss you? What should the frequency of your dates be? What works for you guys? Also what would your answer be if you're still not sure if she likes you?

Of course every situation can be and is different, but just generally speaking, what are your opinions and experiances? Thanks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Rhoto

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So some questions are, when should you ask her out again? Should you ask her out for the next weekend, or should you let some time go by for her to think about it and miss you? What should the frequency of your dates be? What works for you guys? Also what would your answer be if you're still not sure if she likes you?
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Honestly, whenever you feel like it. If she enjoyed your company and wants your attention, she'll do her best to get it. Don't limit yourself by what society or anything else tells you. I've gone out with women twice in the same week while others I only see once in a blue moon. However, don't be available to them 75-90% of the time, the saying "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" is very, very true.

Depending on my line up, I'll wait 3 days to 3 months. But you shouldn't exceed three dates, because it shouldn't take more than that to see if you have actual chemistry.

Hope this helps.
 
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A FEW RULES OF THUMB.

1) ask her at the end of date one

2) wait a few days then call her up

3) email her next day,then ask are you up for some dinner tonight

If she is casually dating, competition could be fierce......so U want to increase the contact frequency (phone calls, texts, emails, dates. Stay in her life, monopolize her time til your solid.
 
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