"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dating + conversion = girlfriend

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just wondering what to do to convert your date into being your girlfriend!
PLEASE HELP! how is it done?
do you DJ's out there just grab her hand sorta thing?

sorry for sounding like a total AFC !

or do you do the formal thing and say "yo woman..i dig you very much.... go out with me" ???

the whole process seems VERY scary to me! !!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The general rule for newbs is that you never ask. There's not always a clear cut line, sometimes it just evolves into a relationship. If she likes you enough she will stay with you and ask you to be exclusive. Some women just assume that you are exclusive and in a relationship after a certain amount of time being together. Usually you'd have to be "dating" regularly for at least 1-3 months. Either way you're thinking about it too much, you will know when it happens and then you can decide if you want to take things to the next level or not. Just play the game and be patient, control your insecurities and uncertainties.
 
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^^ that + develop the kino, ec etc (all in the bible) and the gf relationship will form
 
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am I going to help a newbie out who is posting under a different name or not? nah, not going to help.
 
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don't be so hasty to ruin your existing relationship bud.

as with any stage of a relationship from start to finish: HASTE MAKES WASTE.

don't force things and you'll be fine.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Yeah, don't need to rush things. It sounds like you're trying this on your first date with a girl. Bad, bad idea. Get to know her first. Spend time with her. Get her to want you to be her boyfriend.

If you're looking for an actual moment... those can't be scripted. Sorry.
 
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Never EVER bring up GF in front of her.

the general rule is wait for her to ask you where you think this is headed. usually girls will ask you after a few weeks or months of dating. it generally means, are we a couple yet or are we friends and where's this headed.
 
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Thanks for the insights guyz! :)
I am just affraid of falling into the LJBF trap....
So you guyz reckon that just hanging out with your date, being funny, etc ...Kino Kino Kino and Eye Contact will drive her crazy and she'll start wanting to push things to a higher level?
 
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Heh, you can't be afraid of the LJBF trap. If it happens, it's already in her mind and you can't change that. All I did was go in for the first kiss, looked her in the eyes, said goodnight and left. She second I got home she called and we talked about stuff and I didn't mention anything about what just happened, and she brought up. "So where do we go from here?"

All you need to do is show interest. If she's interested in you, she'll try to opt for a relationship. If she doesn't, she's not that interested and it's not worth it.
 
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