Dating Apps will never be better than the feeling of cold approach in daygame or nightgame!

[DanGreen]

So for the past year I haven’t been doing any daygame or night game due to all the lockdowns and social distancing.
Where I live even outdoors and in places like parks, girls were wearing face masks.

All I have been doing is using Tinder and Bumble and whilst I did get 8 dates out of them, none of them went anywhere past a first date.. either the girl wasn’t feeling it with me or I wasn’t feeling it with them.

Anyway just been to the park today and saw a stunner waiting in front of me outside a cafe in the park so I approached and started a conversation with her.

It was light and fun and she giggled a few times and she mentioned it was brave me approaching a stranger as it never happens to her.

I found out her logistics (lives in my city, single, has no kids thank God) I was gonna try for the Insta date there but literally her family and grandparents are coming to spend the day with her and she waved at them as we were talking so I just took her number instead.

I’ll tell you.. that one single daygame interaction was so much more rewarding and satisfying than any of the 8 girls I matched with and met on the apps during the last year.

Decided to delete the apps and from now on, real life approaching only! Until the next worldwide pandemic that is....

 

[SW15]

So for the past year I haven’t been doing any daygame or night game due to all the lockdowns and social distancing.
Where I live even outdoors and in places like parks, girls were wearing face masks.

That's terrible that even outdoor approaching was messed with due to pandemic and face masks. Face masks make approaching so much more difficult. I promoted outdoor approaching as the workaround to grocery store approaching not being viable due to face masks.

All I have been doing is using Tinder and Bumble and whilst I did get 8 dates out of them, none of them went anywhere past a first date.. either the girl wasn’t feeling it with me or I wasn’t feeling it with them.

The apps stink. The most common outcome from apps is "one date, no sex, no second date". Best to exit that sandbox when there are no results there.

Anyway just been to the park today and saw a stunner waiting in front of me outside a cafe in the park so I approached and started a conversation with her.

It was light and fun and she giggled a few times and she mentioned it was brave me approaching a stranger as it never happens to her.

Approaching in real life is great. In the late 2010s, I had instances of outdoor approaching when women in their 20s (I'm an early Millennial in my 30s) told me that they weren't getting approached in person in non-bar settings.

Few guys have the intestinal capacity to approach women in non-bar settings while sober. While daygame stinks in many ways, if you can do it, that's great. Having that ability is better than not having it.

I found out her logistics (lives in my city, single, has no kids thank God) I was gonna try for the Insta date there but literally her family and grandparents are coming to spend the day with her and she waved at them as we were talking so I just took her number instead.

I’ll tell you.. that one single daygame interaction was so much more rewarding and satisfying than any of the 8 girls I matched with and met on the apps during the last year.

Decided to delete the apps and from now on, real life approaching only! Until the next worldwide pandemic that is....

You're doing the right thing avoiding apps. This instance might lead to a flake, it might not. Pushing for the insta date is always the right move. It's always best to advance. With that said, the insta date is difficult to achieve. I've only been able to achieve it on weekend on outdoor walking/hiking paths.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That's terrible that even outdoor approaching was messed with due to pandemic and face masks. Face masks make approaching so much more difficult. I promoted outdoor approaching as the workaround to grocery store approaching not being viable due to face masks.



The apps stink. The most common outcome from apps is "one date, no sex, no second date". Best to exit that sandbox when there are no results there.



Approaching in real life is great. In the late 2010s, I had instances of outdoor approaching when women in their 20s (I'm an early Millennial in my 30s) told me that they weren't getting approached in person in non-bar settings.

Few guys have the intestinal capacity to approach women in non-bar settings while sober. While daygame stinks in many ways, if you can do it, that's great. Having that ability is better than not having it.



You're doing the right thing avoiding apps. This instance might lead to a flake, it might not. Pushing for the insta date is always the right move. It's always best to advance. With that said, the insta date is difficult to achieve. I've only been able to achieve it on weekend on outdoor walking/hiking paths.

The apps don't drink and speak for yourself on your success rate.

 

[Georgepithyou]

Cold approach is really the only option men without social circles have to get a good girlfriend. It is very hard despite what some veterans say. Most guys need to be doing it consistently to get results (at least 10 approachs a week) when first starting out.

Cold approach is very satisfying though, you feel like a Tiger hunting a deer. The thrill of the chase is awesome.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Not stopped approaching.

The best part is it cut off BS flakes. Girls were either dtf or they **** off kindly.

OLD is cucked. More now then ever. Must extract ASAP or next.

 

[Caelum]

Daygame/nightgame is obviously the best, but when I go on tinder dates I just go all in. I start of flirty and I always, without exception say that we should finish the night at my place. You've got nothing to lose.

 

[SW15]

Daygame bangs are more satisfying, but most guys have to remember that Daygame is wayyyyy slower for results, especially if you're just starting out. Most guys give up after 50-100 approaches and no results. The hardest part actually isn't getting the number and even getting her to reply. It's actually getting the date. This is where most guys get demoralized from what I've seen.

Daygame is slow is so many ways. In my experience, there is a lot of lingering. For instance, you may have to linger at a grocery store or two for 2-3 hours on a weekend to get 3-5 approaches in. Those approaches may not amount to anything. With walking/hiking paths, there's a lot of lingering and waiting for approaches too, none of which may yield anything. If you approach at fitness classes, you're giving up 45-60 minutes of a class for the 5 min window before and after class to approach. That might also not yield anyone interested.

I'd agree that the hard part is getting the date simply because it is difficult to capture attention through day game.

Apps are good, but have to lower your expectations if you're looking for a gf. Most girls from apps have been torn apart by chads and are alpha widowed. Approach apps for bangs only and if you luck out and find a good girl then maybe LTR (if that's your goal). Just don't look for it on apps.

Apps for bad in general. Really bad if looking for any sort of LTR beyond 6 months.

Nightgame is probably the best balance if you can be bothered going out. Best to street approach girls at night in between bars. Approaching in bars is good too depending on how relaxed your city is with COVID laws. Downside is late nights, and drunk people. Isn't pleasant, especially if you're not in your early 20's.

Night game was more affected by the pandemic than either day game or the swipe apps. I never had much experience doing street approaches in between bars.

The best late nights to do night game are nights other than Friday and Saturday nights. On Friday/Saturday nights, every John Q. Paycheck is out looking to make something happen. Most of these guys are stinking up places with bad game and that raises the defensiveness/biatch shields of women. Yes, there are more people out on Friday/Saturday nights, but you're dealing with women with less than ideal attitudes and lots of attention whorring.

Compare this to Sunday-Thursday nights. If a woman is in a bar/nightclub at 11:30 PM on a Wednesday night, she's very DTF. It's difficult to be out until 1 am or 2 am on a Wednesday night/early Thursday morning when you have to be at work by 8:30 am or 9 am on a Thursday. The consequences for messing up at work are high, especially in mentally intense white collar work which also can have long job searches if a termination occurs. To do late night nightlife best, you might want to pick an occupation that doesn't require you to be awake before 12 PM or be a college student. As a college student, the consequences are lower for messing up. The other option that men have at the bars is doing approaches during Mon-Thursday happy hours from 5-8 PM. You can get some approaches in, set up dates (either a private drink somewhere else on another night, a spontaneous date that night, or some activity date in the future), and be asleep by a reasonable hour.

Cold approach is really the only option men without social circles have to get a good girlfriend. It is very hard despite what some veterans say. Most guys need to be doing it consistently to get results (at least 10 approachs a week) when first starting out.

Cold approach is very satisfying though, you feel like a Tiger hunting a deer. The thrill of the chase is awesome.

In my 20+ years in the environment, I've never had a viable social circle. Cold approach has been a big part of what I've done. It is challenging. You're right about how satisfying it is when you are able to achieve from it.