"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dating apps and being an American abroad

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These are some of the women I matched with on Tinder and have took on dates for some Boba Tea and Ice cream or something. Id usually take them to the beach, then sing Karaoke with a group of friends or something. Went to the mall to watch a movie with a couple, then went to the marketplace to go shopping….good stuff. Im a laidback guy, who likes to keep his life drama free so I avoid the illicit sex right off the bat mentality. Im just having fun out here, living a laidback lifestyle and saving a whole lot of cash because my Air Force retirement money goes a long way out here. So yeah these women are cute, some average look wise but have fun personalities…..I’ll take this lifestyle over the many dry spells I have in America dating wise. I ascribe to Rollo Tomassi’s philosophy of dating multiple women, living your purpose and not having oneitis in a wussy way. So yeah, Im just enjoying dating a diverse rotation of women monthly or so, Im just having fun. Now Imagine you as a non Asian with a different ethnicity? You’d be treated like a celebrity out here and get way more matches and hotter women. Just a thought.


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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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It looks like there are better SMV dynamics taking place where you are able to meet more women, engage in wholesome dates with decent types of presentable women, and this is the Phillipeans right? I would even guess there is a more natural feel to this compared to America (ie you are not going to meet a tatooed up girl with triple digit body counts or struggling to get a single match when you have a decent profile up). Defintely, to those who can afford to get out of a Western country and try a SEA or some other place that's developed enough to pass, but has better cost of living, better social mores/traditions/customs around, I think it is a necessary social detox.

You must feel healtier as a person and feel more like a human being having that level of engagement, on a healthy and wholesome level, with the opposite sex? What is important to note is illicit sex (ie fornication) is not part of it...and should not be.

Are you going to frame this as a detox or that people who are struggling with the dating market, or flat out failing, should pack their bags and try out the Philippeans and see if that improves their chances of meeting women, or having healthier interactions leading to progress? Your success is great...but I won't bank on a White guy getting rock start treatment. Beta-males from the Western countires have already spoiled that market...so they are not geting the same level of attention than before.
 

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It looks like there are better SMV dynamics taking place where you are able to meet more women, engage in wholesome dates with decent types of presentable women, and this is the Phillipeans right? I would even guess there is a more natural feel to this compared to America (ie you are not going to meet a tatooed up girl with triple digit body counts or struggling to get a single match when you have a decent profile up). Defintely, to those who can afford to get out of a Western country and try a SEA or some other place that's developed enough to pass, but has better cost of living, better social mores/traditions/customs around, I think it is a necessary social detox.

You must feel healtier as a person and feel more like a human being having that level of engagement, on a healthy and wholesome level, with the opposite sex? What is important to note is illicit sex (ie fornication) is not part of it...and should not be.

Are you going to frame this as a detox or that people who are struggling with the dating market, or flat out failing, should pack their bags and try out the Philippeans and see if that improves their chances of meeting women, or having healthier interactions leading to progress? Your success is great...but I won't bank on a White guy getting rock start treatment. Beta-males from the Western countires have already spoiled that market...so they are not geting the same level of attention than before.

It all starts with inner game. Having a good inner foundation, just being happy and content with your solitude and while you venture out to the world you're in a state of giving. Practices like prayer, semen retention, reading the scriptures and volunteering to charity have made me realize that. Before you head out that door, have some things or a routine you do to get you into a great state of mind, chances are you know what they are and what works for you but by all means, have that great state of mind and be giving good vibes to everyone around you,
 

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It all starts with inner game. Having a good inner foundation, just being happy and content with your solitude and while you venture out to the world you're in a state of giving. Practices like prayer, semen retention, reading the scriptures and volunteering to charity have made me realize that. Before you head out that door, have some things or a routine you do to get you into a great state of mind, chances are you know what they are and what works for you but by all means, have that great state of mind and be giving good vibes to everyone around you,
You are meeting women from Tinder in the Philippeans. You did not get an epiphany in the Philipeans....it is who you are. The only difference is you get.more traction to natural.women in the Philippeans.

Unless you meet women from cold approach and are spreading good vibes with in person approach then it would be a good point. But of you are using tinder and get different results in America vs Phillipeans then it more likely location than inner game.
 

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For those that would emulate our friend Travel Memoirs,speaking from personal experience,it is better to line your Ducks up on internet dating sites before you go,plan on spending four or five days with each of them...Believe me that will be enough,they are amiable and of pleasent disposition,but oh so boring!You can only be on the nest for so long...I chose five Ladies,each being conversant with English and each having their own place...The need to share beds was very clearly part of the deal,only one reneged on this....What the rest lacked in skill,they made up for in enthusiasm to please...Avoid taking Family and friends out to dinner and steer clear of Parents...Be aware that picking up Ladies in Pubs is a very dangerous pastime in the Philippines!
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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