"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dating App Scams

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https://www.armytimes.com/off-duty/...y-male-prisoners-posing-as-women-report-says/

You guys think you've got it bad...

“Surprise” discovered the alleged “sextortion” scheme began in 2015, with prisoners posing on dating applications — primarily one called PlentyofFish — as women in the same age bracket as the targeted soldier.

“Once making contact on the dating application, the conversations are transferred to phone-to-phone text messaging,” the warrant says. “After several hours to several days of texting, the subject will either send unsolicited nude images of a female to the victim and/or agree to trade sexually explicit images with the victim.”

But shortly after swapping nude photos with Andy Dufresne, “Red” and “the sisters,” the unsuspecting soldier would allegedly receive a text from another phone number belonging to a completely different prisoner who would then pose as the fictional girl’s father.

“The ‘father’ then notifies the victim that the female is under the age of 18," the warrant states. "The father will typically state that he will leave law enforcement out of the equation if the victim agrees to pay for various things like cell phone replacement, counseling, hospital treatments, etc.”

Targeted service members often cave in to the pressure, the report said, forking over the cash out of fear of repercussions from their command as a panic sets in that they’ve unknowingly been soliciting child pornography.


Once the soldiers wire the cash, a runner, who authorities have since identified as the operation’s “money mule,” receives the transfer and deposits the funds into a JPay account, a payment processing system used by inmates.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Pretty messed up but I don't see why they didn't just delete the photos and use the fact that the apps stated they were of age as a defense of why they thought the pictures were 18+. As soon as I hear pay me or I need a credit card that won't be charged I'm immediately suspect of scams.
 

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Several of the smaller sites are actual scams themselves. Bot programs harvest pics posted from other social media sites to make fake profiles. Then you get notices of fake messages from the fake profiles, which of course you can't read until you pay them money. Sites like adult friend finder used to pay Russians and eastern Europeans to pretend to be the sexy single women on their site, but like many other jobs, they have been replaced by computer programs.
 

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Pretty messed up but I don't see why they didn't just delete the photos and use the fact that the apps stated they were of age as a defense of why they thought the pictures were 18+. As soon as I hear pay me or I need a credit card that won't be charged I'm immediately suspect of scams.
Agreed. The fact that the website has terms & conditions that state that everyone has to be an adult sounds to me like a slam dunk defense. Also, I seem to recall reading about the cops that try to entrap ephebophiles always state clearly that they are of a certain young age, otherwise the target would be able to have the legal presumption that he was interacting with an adult.
 

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Kiddie porn and anything sexual with someone underage are almost always strict liability crimes. So intent is irrelevant. A girl could show you a state issued id that says she is overage, but if it is not true, then you still committed the crime even though you checked her Id.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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