"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dating a woman half your age

K2000kidd

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This guy Tim that i work with has been FB'ing a 23 yr old bipolar girl
he's 41 but instead of treating him like the fkn pimp he is
he's treated like a child molester, Many feel he's WAY too old fr her
and he takes advantage cuz her manic phase gets her all horned up
and she treats him to marathon style anything goes sex til she comes down

i think he's doing it right by not becoming LTR and i told him him as long as
things stay the way they are, just enjoy the ride

Do you think age should be an issue after women turn 18??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Cinamon

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I dont think the actual age is so much of an issue as how far developed mentally the younger participant is. I think its wrong for a 40 year old man to be with someone who has barely experienced life and has mentally probably developed to the age of 16, but i think its perfectly fine for a 40 year old guy to be dating an 18 year old who has developed as an 18 year old. I guess what I am trying to say is its fine if the younger person isnt guillable or vulnerable.
 

K2000kidd

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Actually I think the bipolar may be the issue not so much the age difference
Think about it a 23 yr old with no real dating options and a single 40 yr old
guy with nothing better going for him than the fact he's hooking up with a 23 yr old mentally ill girl.

Woww now i think he's a scumbag
 

TizZle

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Do you guys think Hugh Hefner is a scumbag... Think about it.. If i was that age and could pull younger chicks i would. Plain and Simple. Why would you sell yourself by short banging some old chick past her prime?
 

Ganondorf

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I dont really see anything wrong with it. sure, the age difference is a biig gap, but if they make it work than why judge them?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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scrouds

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I think in natural terms. Naturally, if she's gone through puberty, she's fair game.

Legally, he just needs to stay within the law, even if its set at a bull**** high age.
 

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K2000kidd said:
Actually I think the bipolar may be the issue not so much the age difference
Think about it a 23 yr old with no real dating options and a single 40 yr old
guy with nothing better going for him than the fact he's hooking up with a 23 yr old mentally ill girl.

Woww now i think he's a scumbag
While technically bipolar syndrome is a mental illness, it's certainly not a mental illness in the way that being psychotic is. A good friend of mine is bipolar and she is a best selling author and advocates for better understanding of the issue.

So, a 23 year old who is bipolar is completely capable of choosing who to sleep with and might like a mature guy because he's better able to understand her condition than a young kid.
 

Allurre

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I wouldn't ever date a girl half my age. The case you mention is legal, and hey, let the man live the way he wants to. As long as both parties are happy, then it's all good.
 
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