Dating a tricky girl (4 dates)

[londonguy]

First post here guys...

Thought I would look here following a few dates with a girl who I'm struggling to get my head around.

She is 20 but plays games. Been on 4 dates now over about 6 weeks. She is a tricky customer to text so I try and avoid that as she is hot and cold over text. When I get her out she displays all the giveaway attraction signs, touching, pupil stuff, flirting etc etc... in between dates she is difficult/ verging on cold.

Last date was at the weekend - setting up the date was a right pain she played hard to get and avoided confirming so I went ultra confident gave her the info on what we were going to do and the time I'd pick her up. Date went well, on the date she made some references/ giveaways about her game and I couldnt help thinking she was as much as admitting she is a game player. Ended up at hers and made out/ BJ.

Text her monday to be polite etc., she was a little chatty, she sent me some random pics and stuff. I waited to reply today and just got shut down with a one sentence answer; so I just thoguht fcuk it and left it.

I get the feeling she is attracted to me and there is sexual chemistry, but she just comes across as cold. She has a good personality in person and she is a 8.5/9, but in my head she is a game player (i've text her enough now to workout she waits a certain amount of time to reply to messages). She overanalyses sh!t judging on comments she makes in conversation. Maybe I just need to chill. Luckily I'm busy with work and stuff, so I'm just playing a chilled game with her. Kind of got the impression when I got her to the stage of investing and texting first, she backed off and went cold for a bit.

I havent gone to secure another date yet for this weekend as its only tuesday, but I'd like to see what you guys think about this one moving forward...so far I think I have handled her ok to good.

thanks!

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Welcome to the boards! Since you're new I'll give you this advice in the nicest way possible:

STOP THINKING YOU NEED TO BE TEXTING HER ALL THE TIME TO KEEP HER INTEREST. YOU DON'T.

As long as she's accepting your dating invitations, not flaking on you, and having a good time when you take her out, you're IN. Don't believe this whole train of thought that says you need to be having constant back and forth text conversations with a chick as a sign of her interest. I advise guys all the time to lay off having random text/phone call conversations with a chick between dates because it's not necessary to build up her interest. In fact, in the first 3 months of dating a girl, the phone should only be used to set up the date, and all the conversation stuff should happen in person.

Also, she's not playing games with you, guy. From what you've described, she's pretty much going with the same school of thought I have, which is: "I'd rather save my communication with him for when I see him in person." Nothing wrong with that, and some people - including women - just aren't phone people. But again: she's still accepting your date invitations. So, if she's not in the mode of excessive communication on the phone with you, GREAT! She's still doing all the things in person she needs to do to indicate she has interest in you. So, unless she starts saying "no" to your dates, or being flakey, or acting distant when you see her in person, LET THE PHONE THING GO AND JUST ENJOY TALKING TO HER WHEN YOU SEE HER IN PERSON.

Hope this helps!

 

[londonguy]

Welcome to the boards! Since you're new I'll give you this advice in the nicest way possible:

STOP THINKING YOU NEED TO BE TEXTING HER ALL THE TIME TO KEEP HER INTEREST. YOU DON'T.

As long as she's accepting your dating invitations, not flaking on you, and having a good time when you take her out, you're IN. Don't believe this whole train of thought that says you need to be having constant back and forth text conversations with a chick as a sign of her interest. I advise guys all the time to lay off having random text/phone call conversations with a chick between dates because it's not necessary to build up her interest. In fact, in the first 3 months of dating a girl, the phone should only be used to set up the date, and all the conversation stuff should happen in person.

Also, she's not playing games with you, guy. From what you've described, she's pretty much going with the same school of thought I have, which is: "I'd rather save my communication with him for when I see him in person." Nothing wrong with that, and some people - including women - just aren't phone people. But again: she's still accepting your date invitations. So, if she's not in the mode of excessive communication on the phone with you, GREAT! She's still doing all the things in person she needs to do to indicate she has interest in you. So, unless she starts saying "no" to your dates, or being flakey, or acting distant when you see her in person, LET THE PHONE THING GO AND JUST ENJOY TALKING TO HER WHEN YOU SEE HER IN PERSON.

Hope this helps!

thanks dude!

 

[narcissist]

I forget who said it but:

A woman who is highly interested in you WONT confuse you.

Truest sh1t ever written.

So she just ain't that interested. You're climbing an uphill battle trying to feign for her interest. My advice, get as much pvssy off her as possible, dont be overly needy with texts, only use them for setting up further in person interactions, and be less invested in her than she is with you. But be prepared for this to go absolutely NO WHERE.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Harry, fvckin spot on again.

 

[Don-Kong]

LISTEN YO.

ALL women love to play hard to get. It's in that girley dating Bible thing. Men chase, do all the work, thats just how it is. They blow hot and cold, ignore that stuff totally, dont even consider it. Just fire in it its all go, all the green lights man.

YOU are the 10, never, ever forget. She is priveleged to be in your presence. Feel it, project it, I dont care if she's a greek goddess. You can always do better, thats the mindset.

 

[Shaka]

Also don't forget : DON'T JUDGE HER BASED ON TEXT BUT ONLY ON HER ACTS

The truth is, she accepted your date invitation. EVERYTHING ELSE IS BS

So don't random text her, it will only be more confusing