dating a girl with a room mate

[backbreaker]

Purly hypothetical question:

You are dating a girl. She rents out her room, because she needs extra money. Not a big deal, it happens. You go over her house one day, and there is some guy who has moved in with her. not a bad looking guy, but that's besides the point, there is a dude living with your GF now that is not you.

How do you handle it?

 

[Demodulate]

I had a girl room mate..

never made a move on her..

actually she is still a pretty good friend..

 

[synergy1]

ha ha. My buddy's girlfriend did this and she ended up cheating on him with him ( amongst other dudes). We found out at a bachelor party when the guy spilled his beans. The best part was she managed to turn it around and make him feel like crap over it.

Having seen this, I would talk to the gf and if she still refused to abdicate I would up and leave. I wouldn't tolerate anything she wouldnt, and I promise you if I lived with a smokeshow, she'd flip the **** out.

 

[backbreaker]

I am convinced that if you took a poll of 100 room mates, one boy one girl.. at least 95% of them ****ed at some point. maybe someone had something to drink too late at night.. unless the guy was just troll worthy or something. You don't have to be interested in a woman to have too much to drink one night and let some **** slip or you are sitting there watching TV and she gets a litlte too close and next thing you know she is blowing you or something.

 

[squirrels]

Until I'm engaged to/married to a woman, I refuse to have any expectations about who she does or doesn't f**k. It's that simple in my mind.

If she IS f**king him, it'll be evident in her behavior over time. Just keep your eyes open.

 

[Warrior74]

I had a female roommate for six months, everyone though we were sleeping together. Her boyfriend became and insecure mess he practically tried to move in to keep tabs on her and she ended up breaking up with him. I had zero interest in her as she was not my type and I had a girlfriend.

It's something you would have no control over to be honest. How do I handle it. I don't. I don't stress over it or act insecure. Because there is no win to be had here. Either she will cheat or she won't, if it bothers you that much, leave her.

 

[Duffdog]

I don't get what the problem is. Are you saying that you are worried that your girl "might" at some point cheat on you? Well, stop worrying because she will, you and her just don't know who and where it will happen. What you have to do is to make sure that you are not hurt by it when when she or he finally reveals it to you accidentally in the future.

Hot girls cheat on their average guy boyfriends. Deal with it, move on. Since you are now a DJ and are adept at finding hot chics (well, you are, aren't you?) then it should be no problem replacing this one as soon as you find a newer model.

The key here, as it seems to have always been, is to simply make sure that you are a desirable male. Once you do this and realize it, the scale tips in your favor as far as cheating and worrying about it.

If it was my GF-- I would just get another one. Seriously. Even if she never cheated on you at any time, the fact that you even worried about it is grounds enough to dispose of the entire thing and find a better one.

My current GF won't cheat on me, not because of anything I learned from this forum, but simply because she knows that she can be easily replaced in about 10 minutes while I can't be. She is aware of my ability to pick up hot girls without even trying, and lives in constant fear that if she takes ONE misstep, I will bail.

But maybe this is a good time for you to learn a lesson without anyone telling you what to do. Thats how I learned.

 

[Colossus]

I currently have a female roommate, lived with her for about a year. We have never fvcked. We were friends in college and she tried back then, but she was never my cup of tea. Overall a cool girl, but I will never live with a female again, unless she's my wife or soon-to-be wife. Reasons being that they are usually messy, cant be personally accountable when it comes to household sh!t (shocker), and the boyfriend factor. Her boyfriend is literally over all the fvcking time....it's like living with a couple. I'm at the age where I either need to live alone or have a lot of breathing room at home. I couldnt really have seen it coming as they weren't together when we moved in, but I guess this is just one of those things I needed to learn.

As far as the original question, why would a girl who is really into you take on a male roommate?? That is just asking for problems. I would talk to her and if she didnt rectify the situation I'd leave. Staying would be disrespectful to yourself. What GIRL in her right mind wouldn't freak out at the idea of her long-term bf taking in a cute female roommate??

 

[Poonani Maker]

It wouldn't bother me one bit if the roommate was fvcking her, cause I've got others. I'd fvck her with the roommate in the room if she'd let me. I'd let him fvck her while I'm fvcking her. Once she stops giving it up though, I'm gone, to greener pastures.

 

[DJDamage]

I will never live with a female again, unless she's my wife or soon-to-be wife. Reasons being that they are usually messy, cant be personally accountable when it comes to household sh!t (shocker), and the boyfriend factor. Her boyfriend is literally over all the fvcking time....it's like living with a couple. I'm at the age where I either need to live alone or have a lot of breathing room at home.

Cosign. I would never live with a woman I am not fvcking (and if I do it won't be with a purchased home or a long term lease).

Living with a female roomate was one of the most horrible experiences I had ever endured. The hypocrisy of her being the messy one and telling me to clean after my sh1t was laughable and putting up with her mood swings almost drove me mad.

As for the original question, I think it depends on the girl you are dating and the guy that moves in with her as well as your own confidence/experience in your game.

1) If you have a weak game, the girl you are dating is an AW/slutty and some Alpha looking/acting dude moves in then I would say that there is a high probability that they will f uck.

2) If you have a strong game, the girl you are dating is not an AW or too slutty and some beta looking/acting dude moves in then the probability that she will cheat is almost zero.

Any combinations mentioned above and it could theoretically happen so in any case you should always be spinning plates and not to worry about it unless you want her to be your g/f.

On another note I saw some hilarious ads on craiglist of guys looking for a female roommate at no cost but the only thing they need to do in order to decide the best canadiate is to send a picture and write down how will they make their stay a memorable experience.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

If my gf had any guy move in with her, I would have a different girl "move in" with me every night.

Probably do her a couple more times, head on for greener pastures.