"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dating a FOB

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During finals week I got a number from a Chinese girl who barely speaks English, but I can tell she's into me, my guess is because I'm white and confident. She's only staying for a short while before going back, so how should I work this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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man,
fuk
just get in and get out, if shes staying for a short period of time, what are you worried about? you're not going to marry her, nor have her kids.
you game her as you would game any other chick, get her, get a connection going, take her out apply kino, and fuk her
same thing with anyother woman, you just need to connect to her on a emotional base level. THAT IS all,

take her for ice cream, try to get her to teach u chinese, make a few laughs, apply kino aswell, sh1t like that.
 
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San Jose California said:
FOB isn't a sosuave term. It just means an asian person who doesn't speak english well. I don't think anyone knows what it actually stands for lol.
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Fresh Off the Boat.
 
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UPDATE

We went to the movies to see Love Guru, she didnt understand most of the sex jokes, but was comfortable being with me. I did apply a bunch of kino, like holding her close since it was cold and rubbing her knee saying she's cute.

After the movie I wanted to see her paintings at her place. Once we got there, she was a bit nervous saying her room is messy. We talked for an hour about random things and I moved in for a kiss on the cheek since she gave me one of her paintings, then another regular kiss when leaving. She didn't move much because she acts really shy around me and not used to the American way of dating. She giggled and talked alot about her paintings express lonely and bleak feelings and she told me she wants to see me again.

My question is how do I get this one in bed if kissing is a huge step for her? She hasn't been in a relationship for a long time, my guess is she's a virgin. I don't mind waiting since I have nothing else to do on Friday nights.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mr Autobahn said:
Get her to teach you some Chinese and make it fun... oh yeah... always use protection.
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So it's possible then? How long does it usually take for shy girls?

I mentioned to her on drawing her in a sexy pose like the movie Titanic. I doubt learning Chinese would be sexy, plus I'm not interested in learning Chinese.
 
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