Dating a coworker

[SamMalone]

I'm dating a coworker of mine and another coworker has been saying innapropriate things to her. I've told him to stop or else once and he said he never did said anything in the first place. She said he said something again earlier today, and she thought I heard and didn't do anything about it, so I guess she thought I was kind of a puss. So now this guy is ruining MY stuff. What should I do guys?

 

[Gangster Of Love]

I'm dating a coworker of mine and another coworker has been saying innapropriate things to her. I've told him to stop or else once and he said he never did said anything in the first place. She said he said something again earlier today, and she thought I heard and didn't do anything about it, so I guess she thought I was kind of a puss. So now this guy is ruining MY stuff. What should I do guys?

When it comes down to it, she is the one that needs to go to HR and report it if this continues. You are the third party, so her official statement is the one that will matter.

You can warn the guy, and tell him that you guys don't want to involve HR, yet it is her who needs to take action if needed. Just make sure you explain this to her. Tell her you understand why she would take it that way, but it will be more effective if she reports it. And tell her you will try talking to the guy again, and it will be reported if it continues.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

I don't see how you would be able to do anything about it. It's your business... if he said it out of the workplace. I can't say it's a good idea for you to talk to him about it, since these kinds of offenses are supposed to go straight to the higher ups.

It's her responsibility to report it, or you can do it unanimously.

What kind of job is this? High school/college type job? Professional?

If it's a high school or college type of job, even as unlikely as it seems, maybe she's fishing for attention... what if it's completely set up and she's testing you. How serious is she about it? If she's feeling you were wussing out, like you said, I can't help to think she's screwing with your head.

If she wasn't a total moron, she would get the HR involved immediately if she was feeling threatened by him.

 

[Warrior74]

Do you actually know he said these things? Or did she just tell you that he did. Unless you are there then you say nothing. If you are there, you ask him to have a word somewhere alone and quiet.

Now stop being an idiot and don't date women at work. Look in my post history for my adventures with that.

 

[SamMalone]

I don't actually know he said them, but I did walk over in the middle of it and he said "are you furious" to me, but I didn't know what he was talking about so I said no. i'll confront him wednesday but no get physical.