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Dating 5 girls together, need advice

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I have 5 girls want to date me.
1st one I know her for 4 months, never met her before, just chat on the phone or emailling, a bit far for me. And she said she want to see me and maybe something more. 2nd one I met her once and I know she definitely want a piece of me, and she despirate to want to meet me again (I am sure, she's going to be screwed so bad, that she'll forget her mother's name!). 3rd one is 3 years older than me, and she said she think I am very special,she gave me her phone no, and want to talk to me plus go out and meet up. I didn't yet, because I am away for hoilday for a few days. 4th one, she said she likes me very much and she said she is looking for a boyfriend, but I never meet her before. The last one, I think she's interest on me, but I feel like she's the most experince one, never met but going to have a coffee with her next weekend. She's playing it very well.

ok, the fact is all the girls above are met from the net, I got several pics from them and they've got several from mine.
We chatted a lot. And we all living on the same city.

I am going to meet them up 1 by 1. I know I can't date all of them together and there will be more girls coming....;)

Here is some questions and would be nice for anyone give me any advice and idea...
I just go out on weekends...

A) PREPRATIONS
1) Time management (e.g. I don't have time to meet another girl at the same time), how to organise time ?
2) keep them not knowing each other (we all lived in the same city, maybe several mobile ?) More suggestions ?
3) How to keep them want me, but not closely like boy friends...i e, hang out sometimes, dinning, bar, sex..etc, but no string...Anything I need more be careful prepare ?

B) SOVLING PROBLEM:
1) If problem like: I got 2 or more want to be my girl friend, how can I go out with more than 1 woman at the same time ? ;)
2) What should I do if they found out ?
:confused:
3) I will be very busy dating 5 girls, how to make me look less busy ?

C) Excuses (I don't give them excuses unless they asked, here are some most common one) :
1) How to make excuse when she can't get me on phone for ages?
2) How to make excuse when I am busy with the other girl, while she's is next to me listening?
3) how to tell them I got something else to do on a Saturday night, so I can't go out with her ?

Any more detail you want to know, please ask. Any suggestions is welcome.
Thanks
 

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Ill tell you right now that this is probably gonna blow up in your face eventually like it did to me, but hey you just might pull it off.
 

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I can tell you now what will happen. I've gotten worried about this myself, but for no reason as it turns out...mostly because I've become extremely picky and guardful of my time.

So, you have five women you have or will end up meeting in real life. I guarantee that with all or most of them either a) you'll be very disappointed with them in person, b) they'll be disappointed with you (maybe not...I'm in no position to say), or c) both. I'd be very suspect of the ones that want to be your girlfriend without ever having met you...that's just too desperate for any reasonably attractive woman. I've talked to women online who seemed just a bit too available and eager to meet me...and when I finally meet them, I realize why.

So, meet as many as you can and don't worry about how to juggle them...I guarantee most of them you won't have to worry about because you won't be as interested after you meet them or vice versa. It's just how it is.

I'm set to meet up with three, maybe four next week. I'm expecting maybe one out of all those I'd be willing to see again. Fine with me...I don't have the time, energy, or patience to deal with that many at a time.

It sounds like you're thinking too far ahead as how to deal with them. But, just in case it works out with all of them...meet none more than once every week or two to keep from getting sucked into a relationship....and don't pretend to be busy, *be* busy. Keep your schedule filled with real events.
 

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Thanks for the reply, I actually met up with 2 of the 5 today, going to meet up 1 more tomorrow and 2 more next weekend, I've got 12 girls in my list now. I won't say they are hot like super model but they are nice, I would give an 8 to them. The reason they use this method to know ppl because they don't want to being pick up by any random guys on the street/club/bar....etc, they want read their profile and pic to pick their guys themselves...and see/date them.

Anyway, everything are going well, but I am still not the master, because they are not that as easy as I thought to be. My head is really working and thinking hard during the dates. I know they like me with all the positive signs/topic they given out......but they are very careful, I lied once today and they almost found out, can see her face changed a bit, have to pretend misunderstanding her question....:eek:

Ok, any more advice ?
They sounds quite serious....
How to dump them after a few... ;) ? lol
 
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I strongly urge you to be up front and honest with them about the other girls. It will save you a lot of trouble in the long run.

It will also help with this:


3) How to keep them want me, but not closely like boy friends...i e, hang out sometimes, dinning, bar, sex..etc, but no string...Anything I need more be careful prepare ?
and with the bit about making excuses as to why you can't see them on a certain day.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Thanks for advise, it's a good idea, but
how to tell them at this stage ? is it a bit late now, I have got 12 on the list now...any other alternative ? I need more suggestions...please
 
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