Date

[Canadian Catnip]

Know this girl and we made an arrangement to meet up for coffee.

She calls me the day before to flake, says she can't make our DATE.

I think, whoa, I never called it a DATE.

So if the women thinks it's a date is that what she sees it as in her mind? Or is that just what some people call any meeting?

The girl has a BF and asked me for my number then asks me out to coffee then calls it a DATE, but then she flakes.

I feel as if I am being played. I called her back and left her this message on her voice mail, "No problem, we'll meet for coffee another time". I had a crazy idea that perhaps she wanted me to refer to the meet up as a date as well in my message so she could play it for her BF and make him jealous.

I imagined her playing the message to him and saying "Listen to this, Catnip asked me out on a date". I have lately been seeing women differently and have come to believe that they can easily do these kinds of things.

After all, a girl with a BF should not be going out on dates with other guys, and probably not even referring to them as dates. The whole thing smells fishy to me.

It's almost like she has a step by step plan. Ask for my number, ask me out, call me up and flake on the DATE, get voice mail from guy saying Date, play it to BF.

Am I crazy here or what for thinking this could be what she is up to? Has anyone else had something like this happen to them?

 

[Moofahsa]

Eh, I dunno, maybe she started feeling like a dirty tramp. Or maybe just seeing if she was still "wanted" or something, women need validation in everything.

I think you screwed up by calling her back, silent treatment would have been better imo.

 

[MacAvoy]

Next, who cares what she referred it to and why. She has a b/f, move on, don't waste your valuable time trying to evaluate what a women is thinking.

Fact is she's a branch swinging monkey, you don't want her.

 

[The Deacon]

Duuuuuude, I think you're taking this way too seriously. I doubt she'd play the message to her boyfriend, and if she did, she's just a stupid b*tch. I've never been good at this sort of thing, so I don't know what to tell you. If you really want to meet up with this chick again, you can call her again and get her on the line, then ask her up front. I'd be done with her by this time, though.