"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Date With My Ex

Desdinova

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So, I went out with my ex from 9 years ago. If I were to sum it up in one word, it would be BORING. However, I'm glad I went. It kinda gives me something to self-analyze.

She hasn't changed much. She's still a smoker, she still talks too quietly, still goes into moments where she zones out, still loves the environment, etc etc. Her body still looks great, but her skin isn't aging very nicely. I had trouble looking at her face, as she's got this layer of blonde fur all over it which is extremely noticeable in the sun, and she's grown a couple of moles. I generally hate moles, especially on a woman's face.

I did the same thing I do on every date: flirt, use C/F, kino, etc. She was enjoying it, but I just didn't feel that certain click I do with most other women. She complimented me a lot, but never really flirted much back (which is pretty normal for her). When the date ended, she suggested that I come over to 'watch a movie or something' on another day. Do I want to? Not really.

I didn't feel any connection with her, and there was no kiss close by my own choice. She wasn't much fun. It's amazing how I never realized what a boring conversationalist she was. I guess 'love' really is blind (and stupid). This chick used to make me pop a woodie just by being around me. I didn't pop a damn thing on this date.

I'll probably LJBF her and continue with Plate #1, the smoking HB8 I've been seeing and progressing with. Now there's a chick I'll be happy to ignore a movie with :)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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K-man

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Hehe...thank's for your report!

I've met (but not "dated") a few old time lovers recently and none of them have aged well. Time certainly ain't nice to women!

Or maybe it's me who stored idealised images of them in my memory....
 

Desdinova

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What's funny is the HB8 I'm dating is 7 years older than my ex, and she looks fantastic. These two women should have their ages switched.

And ever since I've started dating again, I haven't had to pay for a damn thing. These women have insisted on paying for EVERYTHING :)
 
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