Date went well. however she dissapears

[mustfirstregister]

I had a date (First date) on Saturday, went to coffee, park, my home to grab some food, beach to see fireworks then offered her Chai tea at my place. She says it was too late 11PM. I told her it's not late for me. She says she is staying at homesstay. I said OK, maybe next time. She told me she is very happy.
I drop her home and we made out. She says she wants to see me again.

I texted her on Monday...nothing

I called today, Wednesday and left VM...no response.

What is going on? Is this over? What did i do wrong?

 

[JumpOff]

I drop her home and we made out. She says she wants to see me again.

I texted her on Monday...nothing

I called today, Wednesday and left VM...no response.

If a girl is truly into you she will find a way to see you.

What is going on? Is this over? What did i do wrong?

She could be busy, doubtful. Without specifics, it's tough to judge if you in fact did anything wrong. I wouldn't sweat it. Go NC. If she responds, cool, go from there. If not, then she obviously wasn't worth your time anyways.

 

[Trump]

I had a date (First date) on Saturday, went to coffee, park, my home to grab some food, beach to see fireworks then offered her Chai tea at my place. She says it was too late 11PM. I told her it's not late for me. She says she is staying at homesstay. I said OK, maybe next time. She told me she is very happy.
I drop her home and we made out. She says she wants to see me again.

I texted her on Monday...nothing

I called today, Wednesday and left VM...no response.

What is going on? Is this over? What did i do wrong?

You did all that with her on a first date? How the heck are you going to top it on a second date? You got to spread it out.

Imo first date should be coffee shop 45 min to know each other, end with a kiss/make out.

 

[bigneil]

I had a date (First date) on Saturday, went to coffee, park, my home to grab some food, beach to see fireworks then offered her Chai tea at my place. She says it was too late 11PM. I told her it's not late for me. She says she is staying at homesstay. I said OK, maybe next time. She told me she is very happy.
I drop her home and we made out. She says she wants to see me again.

I texted her on Monday...nothing

I called today, Wednesday and left VM...no response.

What is going on? Is this over? What did i do wrong?

Your mistakes in bold.

And notice the OP didn't pay any money for any of that?? It wasn't just a 12 hour date - it was a 12 hour free date! He must figure out what his time is worth though - with preparation he's got 2 days invested.

You did all that with her on a first date? How the heck are you going to top it on a second date? You got to spread it out. Imo first date should be coffee shop 45 min to know each other, end with a kiss/make out.

Exactly. The OP had 4 dates all in 1 and the poor girl was exhausted. She probably thought "Man, did this guy ever have a date before?"

He forgot the following rules:

1) "End the date early"
2) "Keep the first date short"
3) "A succesful seducer is generous"
4) "Let her text you after the date"
5) "If she doesn't reply, go NC"
6) "Never leave voice mail" (stalker).
7) "Don't ask her for reassurance the date is going well"
8) "Leave her wanting more"
9) "Be a challenge"
10) "Never bring her to your house on the first date LET ALONE TWICE!!!".

 

[mustfirstregister]

It was actually 8 hours date LOL

Thanks for your replies. Will consider them in the future.

 

[Serg897]

In my experience, it seems your perception of how well a date went is irrelevant - the true test of interest is whether or not she is enthusiastically agrees to date #2.

If the answer is no, NEXT.

 

[mustfirstregister]

How do you find out whether or not she is enthusiastically agrees to date #2. ?

 

[yuppaz]

You spent too long with her on the first date. How do you know, just ask her out (say you don't have too long to spend this time) again. If she says no, then you know.

 

[pdx1138]

How do you find out whether or not she is enthusiastically agrees to date #2. ?

ya ask her out again, but wait until she gets back to you first.

doubtful she will.

 

[perseverance]

Why must you have done something wrong? No date is ever going to go perfectly and you shouldn't feel any pressure to impress or make sure things go perfectly, so don't be harsh on yourself.

There could be any number of reasons she hasn't responded, it's best not to overanalyse the situation with 'what if's' and 'maybe's'. No news tends to be good news and if she doesn't get back to you, then at least you had an enjoyable date and your time was well spent.

Take all these knock backs on the chin and carry on marching forth.

Also it's best not to hound their phone like you have. Once you have sent that text or called, just leave it. The ball is in her court to get back to you, never chase like that, it makes you come across as undesirable and gives the person the impression you're desperate or are slightly possessive and neither trait is a good one. These are attraction killers for the large part.

 

[mustfirstregister]

Just wanna update this post so everyone knows how it ended. So after leaving a VM and didn't get a response. She texted me back after a week (Maybe she was thinking about how she would handle the relationship or she is confused). She says she has to go back to her country for two months. I contacted her after two months and agreed to meet. She was dress sexy, another 8 hours date, took her home, get naked, d1ick in p0ssy. Happy ending.