Originally posted by Dave111
Hi, I've been dating a girl for the past couple weeks, and the dates we've been on have went pretty well and ended on Thurs night with a kiss close, so going by that I presumed that she was interested and wanted to go out again with me.
As i'd organised the first three dates I wanted her to organise the next one this weekend, and told her to call me. She said as she was getting out the car, that she had a great night and couldn't wait to go out with me again!
You need to be on top of the situation early on, and not relinquish your role as a leader. Organizing the "first three dates" was good, but letting her take charge that early was not. If she is that much into you, you keep doing what is working so far. You want to be the guy who always is in control and has a plan. She needs to be aware that you are in charge and on top of things. Then, and only then do you surprise her by letting her plan things. You are the man, you need to be the one who moves things all a long.
Originally posted by Dave111
so.....
The weekend comes and goes and I hear nothing from her, so I txt her this afternoon to see how she is and I get nothing back in reply.
If you relied strictly on women to carry on with your plans, you'll never get anywhere. Again, at this early stage, you need to take charge, and make the call, not a text message, and let her know what the plan is. Do not ask her if she still wants to go, where she wants to go. Only thing you can ask is, "How much time do you need to get ready?". You call her to tell her what time to expect you, etc. Needs to be done very assumptive. That way if she had any thoughts of flaking, she needs to do the work. Don't make things easy on her. Guys a lot of times make it very easy for the girl to flake, then come here wondering why she flakes.
If she doesn't answer her phone, leave a message saying you are on your way, etc. assume you're going on with the plan. Believe me, she will check her message after you hang up. Don't worry if she doesn't call back. By leaving the right message, you have set it up so you can bust her ballz and call her on her $hit when you finally talk to her. You gotta do things several steps ahead. When you talk to her again, that is when you probably have the best chance to progress, so don't freak when you find yourself there, it is a good thing that should never be avoided but embraced.
This is a big moment in the relationship/friendship/seduction. She's right in my territory. Better than letting her flake and pretend everything is perfectly fine because you are such an AFC that will tolerate anything just for her company. This is the stage where I want to have women, because I know that if I did all the right things, while they think I'll act like a chump, I know that they are closer to being broken down. The are about to get busted on and expected to make it up to me. That is a very good situation to have them in.
I know this sounds like way too much work, but it beats the other option of staying home frustrated and wondering why girls always do this to you. You need to learn how to decode women and make them predictable.
Originally posted by Dave111
I'm just really confused as to what I'm supposed to have done to turn her off (unless she's ran out of credit on her phone)
I've gotta admit, I am still a long way from the finished article with women, Im still learning, and they still confuse me completely at times.
Don't worry about what you did, which was probably nothing. She is just doing what chicks do. She did not run out of credit, she did remember that you asked her out for the weekend. It is a form of testing, they always do it, specifically to confuse you and see how you'll handle it. So you need to know how to handle these types of situations, which will always come up, before you get consistent results.
Originally posted by Dave111
Im probably still too inconsistent with women, there are times when I'm really confident and ****y with them and they lap it up, but I find it difficult to keep this up all the time and iminently they eventually lose interest in me.
I've no problem getting women, its the keeping them part that I'm still usless at and its a problem I want to address asap!
Being really confident and ****y is not something you do, it is something you are. Not just sometimes. You need to revamp your whole game, not just rely on the basic "Outer Game" skills. You can adress it asap, and get started asap,but it will take discipline, time and effort to get it handled. Once you pay your dues, it will be very fun, because then they are the ones acting like a frustrated chump because you got your game tight and they can't figure you out. Definitely beats the other options.
