"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Date to Girlfriend

aussiegoat55

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I have had three dates with this one girl, everything going well, the places we go are exciting, fun, there are surprises, adventure, mystery, good conversation, we are alike, have same values, and the evenings usually end in spooning, making out, and on the third date, second base. So how and when do you make the transition from a few dates to LTR/girlfriend? I mean there comes a point when I just dont want to keep going out on dates.

Any and all advice is appreciated, thanks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Shocker

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How can you be spooning unless you've already had sex? Or are you sleeping with her but not doing the dirty?

I've never been in an actual meaningful relationship, but I'd assum that the way to go from dating to LTR would be to continue to hang out, but not just take her out on "dates"...Call her to talk occasionally, not just set up a date.

The big deal of course, in going from dating to relationship is committing to exclusivity: You can't date others and neither can she.
 

Kevin Cass

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I think he's sleeping with her and not doing the dirty, but 2nd base. u should always go on dates with ur girl u cant just say shes my gf and not go on dates..but go places every once in a while
 

RestoretheROAR84

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I think he means he wants her to be his gf and not just some girl he hangs out with not that he doesn't want to go on dates anymore.
 

shydude

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It all comes in time, eventually you will become closer and closer. Dating should not stop, go to movies, parks and everywhere else. Keep in touch all the time, talk etc.. If you are in highschool you still live with your parents, there is nothing much you can actually do lol, just date etc. Once your older you will know. Moving in and stuff is a big part of taking relationship into the next lv. I am guessing your still young, so just stick to highschool relationships which is nothing more than friendship, fun, dating, sex and so on.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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