"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Date to Girlfriend

aussiegoat55

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I have had three dates with this one girl, everything going well, the places we go are exciting, fun, there are surprises, adventure, mystery, good conversation, we are alike, have same values, and the evenings usually end in spooning, making out, and on the third date, second base. So how and when do you make the transition from a few dates to LTR/girlfriend? I mean there comes a point when I just dont want to keep going out on dates.

Any and all advice is appreciated, thanks.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The Shocker

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How can you be spooning unless you've already had sex? Or are you sleeping with her but not doing the dirty?

I've never been in an actual meaningful relationship, but I'd assum that the way to go from dating to LTR would be to continue to hang out, but not just take her out on "dates"...Call her to talk occasionally, not just set up a date.

The big deal of course, in going from dating to relationship is committing to exclusivity: You can't date others and neither can she.
 

Kevin Cass

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I think he's sleeping with her and not doing the dirty, but 2nd base. u should always go on dates with ur girl u cant just say shes my gf and not go on dates..but go places every once in a while
 

RestoretheROAR84

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I think he means he wants her to be his gf and not just some girl he hangs out with not that he doesn't want to go on dates anymore.
 

shydude

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It all comes in time, eventually you will become closer and closer. Dating should not stop, go to movies, parks and everywhere else. Keep in touch all the time, talk etc.. If you are in highschool you still live with your parents, there is nothing much you can actually do lol, just date etc. Once your older you will know. Moving in and stuff is a big part of taking relationship into the next lv. I am guessing your still young, so just stick to highschool relationships which is nothing more than friendship, fun, dating, sex and so on.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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