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One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Date tip - eat Japanese

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Quick tip if you are just starting to date a girl. I see all these posts about how to keep conversation going and what to say ...etc. Well if you are just starting to date a women and aren't sure if you are going to hit it off....take her for some Japanese food. The kind of restaurant where they cook in front of you. Heres the deal...they sit you in a circle (semi-circle) and you are sitting with other people. You might even find yourself mingling with the other people at the table. Also you don't have to sit directly across from your date staring at each other. Everyone is facing the chef. And the chef is not only preparing your meal but its a sort of entertainment. Anyone who has gone to one knows what I am talking about. This eases the burden of making conversation with your date. Its actually fun to see them prepare the food in front of you.

If you like chinese food or japanese food I think you'll find that this works. Its a great way to eat, be entertained and not have to make a ton of forced conversation with your date.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ozzfest said:
Quick tip if you are just starting to date a girl. I see all these posts about how to keep conversation going and what to say ...etc. Well if you are just starting to date a women and aren't sure if you are going to hit it off....take her for some Japanese food. The kind of restaurant where they cook in front of you. Heres the deal...they sit you in a circle (semi-circle) and you are sitting with other people. You might even find yourself mingling with the other people at the table. Also you don't have to sit directly across from your date staring at each other. Everyone is facing the chef. And the chef is not only preparing your meal but its a sort of entertainment. Anyone who has gone to one knows what I am talking about. This eases the burden of making conversation with your date. Its actually fun to see them prepare the food in front of you.

If you like chinese food or japanese food I think you'll find that this works. Its a great way to eat, be entertained and not have to make a ton of forced conversation with your date.
Oh yeah! The chef cooks everything in like a large flat metal surface, and he does alot of tricks with those two cooking utensils (I'm Chinese).

But I disagree with some aspects of your point- I think that chef will be abit of a distraction- I mean what if some person really hits it off with her but the chef is in the background clanking away with those cooking tools. Just a thought.

But its amazing food I must admit.
 

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I disagree with your post.

A typical dinner at Beni-Hana's or something similar can run you into a lot of money.

Not to mention the food that they offer there isn't really that great. They focus more on the performance rather than the food. And I don't know if you've noticed this, but they don't give you that much food. Did I mention that it's a rip off?

I say it's pretty safe to choose a Japanese restaurant, but the one with performers are pretty pointless.

I think the other reason I don't like it is because it's not an intimate thing. Everytime I went to one of those with my girlfriend, they put you in seats where strangers are sitting right next to you. You really can't talk about anything personal or sexy when there's a performer in front of you and a lot of strangers sitting next to you.

Did I mention it's a rip off?

Don't go too expensive on a restaurant. Spending more money doesn't get you laid.

Finally, the most important reason of all.

It's not authentic. If I go to a Chinese restaurant, I make sure that the lines are full of people and everybody eating there is Chinese. If I eat at a Japanese restaurant, I make sure that the lines are full and everybody eating there is Japanese.

Most performance places aren't authentic. And being a food specialist myself, I know that the Japanese food offered in performance areas pale in comparison to places that are known for thier food.

I think you have a good idea going on. But skip the performance restaurants. Use that extra money you save to actually take her to a fun place, like an amusement park.
 

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First off I would not take a woman to eat on our first time together...but that wasn't your point, was it LOL

Anyways, if you insist on Japanese and sitting at a bar...do Shabu Shabu. You both get to cook your own shyt in boiling stock and add whatever you like. It's kinda like an 'activity' date and there is no knife-wielding chef to steal her attention.
 

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It's called tepanyaki.

Can be good fun (I held a birthday there once) but the meals tend to be very expensive since it's usually set menus. If she agrees to pay her half up front then why not?
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I love Hyori Lee said:
I disagree with your post.

A typical dinner at Beni-Hana's or something similar can run you into a lot of money.

Not to mention the food that they offer there isn't really that great. They focus more on the performance rather than the food. And I don't know if you've noticed this, but they don't give you that much food. Did I mention that it's a rip off?
I disagree with your disagreement. The absolute best spicy tuna handrolls on the planet are at the Benihana in Disney village. Rollo, DEEP DISH, STR8UP and myself have met up there and dined on the fantastic sushi (Rollo is nuts for the quail egg btw).

I've spent a helluva lot more for a helluva lot worse.

You need to come down here and have some of the sushi from this Benihana.
 

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I love Hyori Lee said:
I disagree with your post.

A typical dinner at Beni-Hana's or something similar can run you into a lot of money.

Not to mention the food that they offer there isn't really that great. They focus more on the performance rather than the food. And I don't know if you've noticed this, but they don't give you that much food. Did I mention that it's a rip off?

I say it's pretty safe to choose a Japanese restaurant, but the one with performers are pretty pointless.

I think the other reason I don't like it is because it's not an intimate thing. Everytime I went to one of those with my girlfriend, they put you in seats where strangers are sitting right next to you. You really can't talk about anything personal or sexy when there's a performer in front of you and a lot of strangers sitting next to you.

Did I mention it's a rip off?

Don't go too expensive on a restaurant. Spending more money doesn't get you laid.

Finally, the most important reason of all.

It's not authentic. If I go to a Chinese restaurant, I make sure that the lines are full of people and everybody eating there is Chinese. If I eat at a Japanese restaurant, I make sure that the lines are full and everybody eating there is Japanese.

Most performance places aren't authentic. And being a food specialist myself, I know that the Japanese food offered in performance areas pale in comparison to places that are known for thier food.

I think you have a good idea going on. But skip the performance restaurants. Use that extra money you save to actually take her to a fun place, like an amusement park.
covered all the points i could think of.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
I disagree with your disagreement. The absolute best spicy tuna handrolls on the planet are at the Benihana in Disney village. Rollo, DEEP DISH, STR8UP and myself have met up there and dined on the fantastic sushi (Rollo is nuts for the quail egg btw).

I've spent a helluva lot more for a helluva lot worse.

You need to come down here and have some of the sushi from this Benihana.
There's much better places. Believe me.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
The absolute best spicy tuna handrolls on the planet are at the Benihana in Disney village. Rollo, DEEP DISH, STR8UP and myself have met up there and dined on the fantastic sushi (Rollo is nuts for the quail egg btw).
I concur.
 

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I'm a big sushi guy myself so when I do take a woman out to eat.. japanese is usually at the top of my list

but I am a big action date guy
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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