Date thought I was a complete weirdo

[Jack Hensy]

Ok, this is from another thread. I hada date with this woman. We both flirted, both kissed a lot, and mutual attraction -- at least I thought.

The next several days I contacted her through text to say hi. She thought I was a weirdo and that I insulted her by saying she was much shorter in person(which was a compliment since I like short girls), and that I liked curly hair on girls. I missed that one.
Yet she continued to kiss me and she hung out with me for two hours. I made a $2000 profit on a car that day so I was happy I sold it for a profit and that I didn't buy her drinks. WOW. She whipped out her credit card when the bartender approached her. I would have more than happy to pay. She was pissed off underneath and yet she smiled, flirted and we kissed me the whole time.
Then afterwards I walked her to her car and she asked me to kiss her again and we made out for 10 min.
Now she is telling me she doesn't want to see me again and that I'm weird, etc? Women are nuts.

Why stay with for 2 hours on a date if you don't like me? Why kiss me? Why flirt with me? Yet underneath her persona was an angry woman who hated my guts.

Anyone go through that BS? Women have serious agendas.

 

[Armourhead]

Yeah it sucks I know. Just drawback a little bit, maybe see some other people. See if she texts you. If she thinks you are weird then texting her constantly will not help. Leave her alone for a bit, if you were a creep that's the opposite of what you'd do. She'll either change her mind or she won't.

 

[Jack Hensy]

I'm in sales and never thought I gave off a weird vibe. Oh well, apparently I do to this girl.
Just wondering if she is the weirdo for feigning false interest. If I wasn't interested in a chick I would bail out fast---not kiss her.

 

[yuppaz]

You shouldn't have gotten a hold of her to say "Hi" after the date. You should have waited a bit and asked her out or waited for her to reach out to you. Also do you think she wanted to f*ck and not just kiss?

 

[Jack Hensy]

Not sure about the f^ck part. I asked her to wear black stockings to the date and she followed through and I was feeling her up. I was flirting hard with her and trying to escalate things since she had to get home to her kids. But she said no kissing like that in the bar. So when we left to the parking lot she grabbed me and asked to kiss her...then she said she had to go.

 

[nismo-4]

You failed the date. Delete her number and move on.

Case closed.

 

[yuppaz]

Sounds like she might be kinda screwy bro, maybe it's not on you at all. If she is so sensitive she can't take light teasing then she wouldn't be much fun anyway. The only area I can see you may have messed up is the texting daily. You need to give her SOME time and space to wonder about you.

Also don't listen to that nismo kid he's been giving ****, unhelpfull advice for years. I think your issue was after the date, you were too eager and trying to lock her down (in her mind) after a date. Keep it casual, light hearted and let her reach out to you to...and phones are ONLY for setting up dates, not trying to get some chick to be more into you.

 

[glass half full]

she may have been pizzed since she bought the drink. I'm thinking she's your average entitled chick. When she said you were weird, you might have said "well, like attracts like, right?". In a joking way, of course. Don't beat yourself up with it. If you hear from her, proceed. But don't care so much. Make her make the next move.

 

[Desdinova]

My first question is, is there a common denominator here? Have you had this happen before on dates with women? If this is an isolated case, then there's likely something wrong with the woman.

Women have serious agendas.

What was her agenda? She didn't get anything from you other than a kiss.

Lots of guys here seem to think that most women have agendas, but it's quite the opposite. They make all their decisions based on how they feel in the moment. The only women who have agendas are the terminal slvts and gold diggers.

 

[Jack Hensy]

I read her signs -- subtle signs. She was offended when she came into the bar because I said to her...."I saw you come in". She said ..."Well why didn't you come up to me or approach me?" I said "you were there for a minute and disappeared behind some patrons before I could get your attention, because you were shorter.". She said...are you calling me short? Did you read my profile? I am only 5ft 2!" I said "yes I read your profile and knew you were 5ft 2."
I knew she had issues right then and there.

 

[Tictac]

I read her signs -- subtle signs. She was offended when she came into the bar because I said to her...."I saw you come in". She said ..."Well why didn't you come up to me or approach me?" I said "you were there for a minute and disappeared behind some patrons before I could get your attention, because you were shorter.". She said...are you calling me short? Did you read my profile? I am only 5ft 2!" I said "yes I read your profile and knew you were 5ft 2."
I knew she had issues right then and there.

Smooth!

 

[Huffman]

Yeah man, she's a bit crazy. Take it as it is. She won't be your girlfriend!

But there's an upside: with all that getting angry she's basically negging herself, doing your work for you
Keep it up, as long as you stay aloof and seriously think she's crazy (which she is) you have a good chance of getting laid.

 

[Jack Hensy]

When we were leaving the bar and I didn't feel like kissing her good night because I was unsure of her.
Then as I walked her out to her car I stood 3 feet away, said goodbye and was going to walk away.
Then she said "aren't you going to kiss me goodnight?"She grabs my jacket and pulls me in to kiss her for 5 minutes. It was ok kiss, no magic.
I found out the next day she told a friend..."that she felt bad for me so she kissed me."
Are you kidding me? She had asked a friend to find out what I thought of her the next day too. WTH?
I have had enough successful closes and ONS's that I don't need a "pity kiss." lol.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

She's the one weird for kissing on you the entire date and nesting afterwards.

 

[Jack Hensy]

yea,. I was just being respectful and not pushing anything with her. I was trying to be cool and let the date fade....no biggie.
oh well, next....girl.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

She might be mad at you cause you didnt screw her. All that petting etc and you didnt hit it.

 

[Jack Hensy]

She's mad because I didn't buy her a drink(true), talked about myself(somewhat), thought I was weird(ok maybe), told her I had dated hot girls(not true), said she was short(yes as a compliment I like short girls), I didn't like her hair(not true, I liked her hair) Many were false.
I honestly liked her. But what can you do?

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Jack,
You played your game really well...You must appreciate the Women you are seeing are mostly rejects,probably for sound reasons...Using Logic on any Womans actions is pretty dumb...Who knows what is going through that Pea sized brain?

 

[beforeimgone]

Ok, this is from another thread. I hada date with this woman. We both flirted, both kissed a lot, and mutual attraction -- at least I thought.

The next several days I contacted her through text to say hi. She thought I was a weirdo and that I insulted her by saying she was much shorter in person(which was a compliment since I like short girls), and that I liked curly hair on girls. I missed that one.
Yet she continued to kiss me and she hung out with me for two hours. I made a $2000 profit on a car that day so I was happy I sold it for a profit and that I didn't buy her drinks. WOW. She whipped out her credit card when the bartender approached her. I would have more than happy to pay. She was pissed off underneath and yet she smiled, flirted and we kissed me the whole time.
Then afterwards I walked her to her car and she asked me to kiss her again and we made out for 10 min.
Now she is telling me she doesn't want to see me again and that I'm weird, etc? Women are nuts.

Why stay with for 2 hours on a date if you don't like me? Why kiss me? Why flirt with me? Yet underneath her persona was an angry woman who hated my guts.

Anyone go through that BS? Women have serious agendas.

First off, 2000 on flipping a car is impressive. I have heard horror stories of my friends at the car dealership lol, but I applaud you on having her pay for her and your drinks. Think of how many other guys that make her pay. NONE. What you did was get her to invest which is why she felt comfortable kissing you. Her logical mind doesn't like the fact that she wants you so much, but by getting her to invest you magnified attraction times one thousand. You will bed this girl. To understand the expertise that you displayed on this woman come on over to where my friends and myself are discussing this very phenomenon. I use it often on my wife and she is hopelessly in love with me.


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