"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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VoiceofReason

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I had a coffee date with a girl today. Here's the exposition:

The first time I ever really talked to this girl was at my senior prom last year. My date turned out to be a byotch (she's the reason I'm here), so I just talked and danced with this girl all night. She was fun and had a HIGH interest level... That was cool... Anyway, we became friends. Flirted everynow and then, but nothinge ver happened. I saw her at work the other day (she applied there) and I sat with her while she was waiting on her interview. We were close within seconds...I mean physically close, not like...friend close. I could have kissed her if I wanted, but i was at work. We played tic-tac-toe (don't knock it, fellas, it works wonders...) and then she got called for her interview. About five or six minutes later, she finishes and starts to leave.

Me: Hey, babe. You forgot something...
Her: Oh, damn...

She comes over and hugs me. Nice...

Anyway, here's the real story:

We meet at Panera Bread today for coffee before she had to work...and had a really good time. The conversation never lulled for more than a second when it lulled at all, she did most of the talking. She asked me questions, I never gave too much up. She was easy to play off of when it comes to neg-hits and C+F...etc. ...

We have several laughs and before you know it...she's almost late for work. She gets up and we say goodbye. No hug, nothing. She leaves. But, she did keep smiling at me when she did leave...

The only reason I would tell you guys this is this instance right here:

Her: You know? You're really easy to talk to...
Me: I do what I can...
Her: It's like talking to one of my girlfriends...
Me: ...
Her: (laughing) What?!
Me: ...Girlfriend? (****y smile) Did you really just utter those words?
Her: (smiling) Problem?
Me: If I was one of your 'girlfriends' it wouldn't be...
Her: (just laughs)

I mean...damn. Friend zone arleady, or what? ...HELP!!!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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white cloud 8

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Dude....just say "Is Wayne Brady gonna have to choke a b*tch?"

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VoiceofReason

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That's awesome...

...so...should I give her another run, or just cut my losses...?
 

Damian

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If you do get another run, set it on your own terms. I'd say you're definetely on the right track. Just make sure you initiate an emotional and physical connection fast, or you'll lose this girl faster than you CAN say, "Is Wayne Brady gonna hafta choke a b*tch!?". Take initiative and don't worry if you screw up.

-Damian
 
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