date report - how do I go on from here.

[soler37]

Girl added me on Facebook due to mutual friends, she was attracted to me seeing the photo and all so that was her opening line for me when I asked her who she is.
Got the number after a few mins and chatted abit on whatsapp... No boring convos for sure.
So we went on a Quick date for a drink.. shared a nice talk with some laughs and on the way to the car I wrapped my arm around her and gave her some rubs so she won't be called. I drove her home and exchanged a quick kiss.
The following morning I text her a message with an intention of sparking an emotion in her and making her feel more connected to me.
Before the text I should say that she was going to watch a basketball game with her dad on tv, and their tradition is drinking brandi with coke.. and in the date we both share a drink and were slightly tipsy.
So. . My text the following morning
Hey lady. "Hope they didn't give you too much brandi! .
Good game?"..
Now I'm not a playa nor do I go to many dates so all I can do is gather info for my next incounters..
So a few questions FOR THE EXPERIENCED.
I'm pretty sure I nailed everything, should I have called her later after the text, is it possible she wants a call rather than a simple text?
Should I call or text the day after?
Should I just let her make the move and if nothing happens than just drop it?
Did I do anything wrong?
As a side note. . I wouldn't really "chase" a woman unless I think she's gorgeous looking and is interesting me. So
Today is the day after the text..

 

[soler37]

Bump. Need to know if to call her or not. This undershirt
Uncertainty Is sitting on me soul

 

[MillionBillionaire]

You made a mistake by texting the next day. You should have given her the gift of thinking things over and missing you and wondering why you haven't called or texted.. you must be busy. But instead you said some cheesy needy text as soon as you woke up.

dont call. she got your text.

 

[soler37]

So do nothing?

 

[soler37]

So don't do anything? It's funny every source tells you different. I read the magnetic messaging book and there it is stated that texting her the next day with the intention of sparking an emotion from the night before is what should be done. Nowhere does it say wait a few days. Other opinions before I make my godamn decision. ..

 

[MillionBillionaire]

no man, don't do anything. You need to cool off in your head about this girl for a minute. As soon as you start texting her everyday and being all clingy and being the one with super high interest she will drop you.

She needs time to build her interest level by fantasizing and wondering about you. Let her have that. You need to go spin some other plates. You sound like you have onitis.

lol magnetic messaging book lololol burn it. lol sparking an emotion, like she needs it anyways and a text will give it lol. burn it.

 

[soler37]

I know but its bit confusing.. Maybe she is waiting for me to call, is that not a possibility. I don't know her very well but for a fact she is a nerd type with nerd friends.. Maybe she is the type that wants a phone call. . Maybe I'm making excuses but I want to know at the very least if there is a go for a2nd date. .

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Read this carefully ...

Wait a few days... don't call or text at all for a few days..

Make a phone call in a few days ... ASK FOR A DATE DO NOT TALK ABOUT SHIIYT OR SMALL TALK ... GET A DATE.

You sound like you want to be texting back and fourth all day with this chick. don't do that. Talk about stuff during the date, not over the phone or texting. Don't reveal all your cards at once, save stuff to talk about, leave a bit of mystery. Girls 101.

 

[soler37]

I know man but won't waiting also kill the chance as much as it can save it? I have her number and she mine. She knows when I'm online on whatsapp and she has my Facebook , do these things not affect the waiting game?

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Does anyone else wanna tell him he needs to wait at least 3 days? He won't listen lol. Didn't you already text her once anyways?

Game plan ...

Wait a few days and call to get a date. The end. Nothing more, nothing less. No texting or calling for no reason.

You won't build her interest level over the phone or text. You do that on dates.

You look like a weak needy beta faggot by texting all the time.

 

[soler37]

Ok lol ill give it a rest. so tomorrow is 2 days after the text. Should I call or text and what do I not say so I sound not needy?

 

[n00bPimp]

Great advice here and I think you should follow it. One thing I wanna make clear to you is that its not a big deal if u txt the next day or 3 days after or even an hour after the date. What you must focus on is what are you SUBCOMMUNICATING to her by doing that.
I usually send a text a few hours after the date to let her know I had a good time. It subcommunicates the fact that I am not playing any games and I'm not abiding by any "wait x days" rule. However after that I may or may not text after a day or 2. I play it by ear.

If she never replies back just let it go. Maybe get back to her after sometime. And if that doesnt work thats fine also.

Just like any skill, you might've failef but you have learned.

 

[soler37]

I don't think I've failed I know she did.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Its good that you are trying to learn & improve.

Please don't refer to any hard set rules or E-books on texting/game etc as your go to when deciding what to do.

In general you should realize that women are attracted to men who lead busy, interesting lives. If you create attraction and peak her interest, she will be excited and eager to hear from you.

In the beginning of any courting phase, women will purposely wait to respond or not respond at all to see how you react. Will you panic? Will you break? Ideally you should have several women you are interested in and talking to all at once so you don't have the time or energy to hyper analyze any one girl like this….. subconsciously when you do, it makes her value RISE in your mind and makes you CHASSSSSSSE. Never chase

Again I'm all about going off each specific situation in terms of how you proceed, when to contact etc. But what it all comes down to his holding your frame as the leader in the interaction and making her initial attraction elevate.

Think about how many chumps chase, double text and then text some more?


Relax, you only went on one date, no biggie. Stay busy, go out and meet new girls with your boys and then hit this girl up early next week to hang out again.

And to answer your question above; when a girl has strong interest she doesn't forget about you in a few days, if anything it will increase her interest in you.










PIMP

 

[soler37]

Well I didn't hear from her yet. She is either not interested, playing games or just plain weird. She knows how to reach me and I know my value for sure. . Let her sweat for it.

 

[pyros]

Well I didn't hear from her yet. She is either not interested, playing games or just plain weird. She knows how to reach me and I know my value for sure. . Let her sweat for it.

well I think you should realise she's not into you now. She was BEFORE she actually met you.


Try to get rid of that desperation mindset you have.