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There's a girl that I like who is a really good golfer (plays on the school team, etc), and I'm also into golf, though not as good, so it's something in common.

Golf would probably be a really good "date", because there's just sooo much time to talk to each other.

However, do you guys think it would be a good idea to ask her if she wants to play golf this weekend or something? I mean, she has practice pretty much every afternoon, so I think she might rather do something different.

Any of you guys been in similar situations?
 

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You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Why don't you talk to her and see if she wants to play golf? If not, try something else.

do you guys think it would be a good idea to ask her if she wants to play golf this weekend or something?
No, if you want someone else to ask her.
 

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The problem with golf is you won't get a whole lot of kino opportunities, it'll take a while, and it's kinda expensive.

Not a bad idea but not a good first date idea.
 

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Originally posted by The_Shezzler
No KINO opportunites? how did you figure that out?
What in the hell are you talking about.

Since when did the meaning of "won't get a whole lot" change to none.

R>C>P
 

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Originally posted by The_Shezzler
No KINO opportunites? how did you figure that out?

In fact not only does that not make sense in context with a golfing date, it dosnt make sense at all!

KINO isnt an opportunity that presents itself to you, its an opportunity that you create!

It dosnt matter if you go golfing, to the movies or hiking - YOU have to take control and initate KINO - not wait for the precise moment, analysing each section of your approach before you decide to stroke a fake eyelash off her cheek.

Women love to be touched, the only problem is that society has programmed us to believe that touching instantaneously equates to sex...!

When you stroke or pat your dog, is that sexual?

Its the exact same with women, unfortunately due to our social ineptitude towards sex, frowning upon it - touching is seen as wrong..bollox - touch her (not to the point of rape charges however lol)

Make it happen whenever, wherever - the date as NO correlation to KINO whatsover!

Sarge On...
Uh, shes the one with the golf skills, this kid didnt even state if shes giving him any IOI's.
 

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IOI's? What are those?

Well, anyways, I asked her to play this weekend and she seemed really happy, so I'm thinking things should go well. She's a hell of a lot better than me, but I'm pretty good at making fun of myself (in a funny way, not looking like a chump), and I'm not horrible at golf anyways.

But yeah, I'm not too worried about "kino opportunities", I'll just take what I can get in that area. The big thing for me is that it's 4 hours of just the two of us talking.
 

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Originally posted by ilikebeef
There's a girl that I like who is a really good golfer (plays on the school team, etc), and I'm also into golf, though not as good, so it's something in common.

Golf would probably be a really good "date", because there's just sooo much time to talk to each other.

However, do you guys think it would be a good idea to ask her if she wants to play golf this weekend or something? I mean, she has practice pretty much every afternoon, so I think she might rather do something different.

Any of you guys been in similar situations?
Man, your head is sort of in the right place. You got the right idea about wanting to do something different than most guys would on the first date, however, she probably practices already so much, even on the weekends, that golf would probably not be a good idea. Try bowling, or even putt-putt; something other than what she already lives and breathes.
 
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