"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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date postponed..what to do?

big_jeffry

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Ok, me and this girl from school arranged a first date, but then I told her I was going to get her at a certain time, and she told me 2 days later that's she's busy, but she can go next week. I don't want to be "available" all the time, but I do want to go on this date. So, what do I do? How do I get on this date without being so needy?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Rock_Solid

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Say your pretty busy on that day and try to schedule a new one. If she has no other days tell her that you'll try to make room for the date and go out with her the day she recommended.
 

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I'd tell her that you are busy next week.

Tell her you'll call her. It will look better if you don't seem all that interested.

If you dont have her #, then get it from her


Foamy
 

bigjohnson

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You don't.

Sadly, you're pretty booked that week, too bad your schedules don't mesh. Damn. Well, maybe she can call you if she gets free this week, or after next week?

She's yanking your chain - yank back, but don't be nasty. Who's driving this car? You are.
 

Jay Jay

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Just go on the ****ing date.

People are busy sometimes.

Don't play games like a *****.


JJ
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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banGbro

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Here is what I would do. I call her or better yet talk to her. Tell her Im busy on that day she WANTS a date. But, we could go out the next day. Tell her I am going so and so, would you like to come with me. Dont ask her out, per say, like you asking for her permission.


Your first mistake was telling her what time you going to pick her up. I never tell women what Im going to pick them up or where were going. Just tell her to keep herself available that part of the day. Such as "keep yourself available in the afternoon, Ill pick you up." What time? "Hmmm, well see."

Now if shes picking you up, always tell her to be prompt, and b1tch about it if shes not. Example; "Pick me up at 6.... and dont be late!"
 

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Jay Jay said:
Just go on the ****ing date.
Well, obviously I disagree, but what works for me might not work for everyone. Here's the thing; she might be busy, but if she were interested she could get unbusy, unless it's something real. So to some degree it depends on what the other thing is.

I bet it's just that she's not interested enough to drop whatever else she's up to and go with you instead. So if you're oK with being 3rd string, enjoy your date. Personally my time is too valuable to go out with someone who's not that interested. *shrug*
 

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Jay Jay said:
Just go on the ****ing date.

People are busy sometimes.

Don't play games like a *****.
Yea do not.

Be sure she is not playing any... after all, all the sh1t she reads on magazines about "putting a man under her spell" is not game, it's just entertainment.

:rolleyes:
 
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