Date might be Married?

[bigneil]

Last New Year's I met one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen at a hotel where she worked, but she was only 20. By chance, 8 months later I happened to run into her in a bar right after she turned 21 and (without recognizing her as her hair changed from black to blonde, but with my being equally stunned by her beauty) I managed to get her phone number. She was very well spoken and mature. After we already had a little romance going, including one date and kiss, I happened to return to that hotel and I put one and one together. I sent her a photo of the spot we met and asked "did we meet here 9 months ago?" and I was correct.

She couldn't believe how good my memory was, and this made things extremely romantic. She now sends 10 texts per day on average. At one point she asked me my full name and told me her full name, so I could find her on Instagram. Some of her pictures are literally stunning despite being selfies (I planned to take more this weekend), but some others came with quotes and while I didn't read too many, in one message she said "I support my husband". And get this: she said she supports him for admitting he is bisexual! Women these days. Note this is not confirmed yet.

Long story short, we're supposed to go out Saturday night and she also said she wants to come with me out of state in a few weeks, a trip I already booked for myself. I told her "Let's see how Saturday goes first", and this was just before realizing she might be married.

So my feeling is that I should just not mention the fact she might be married, especially since it would seem obsessive and is hopefully incorrect. In a way I want to test her to see what kind of girl she is before letting her know I know (assuming it's true). Given her age, and her potential husband having deceived her about his sexuality, I couldn't really blame her if she cheated. But if she knows I know, the mask will be on. I would like to know her status by the point we travel out of state.

What would you do in this situation?

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I would pretend like I don't know. If she finds out you know, she might be worried you will think of her as a cheating slut. You don't want her to feel like you are judging her. A girl havinf sex with a guy when she isn't in a relationship though? Not really that bad, eveyone likes sex. Besides, if the dude admitted being bisexual AFTER they got 'married', it could be an open relationship. I mean why else would you admit something like that in a marriage anyways?

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Just proceed like you don't know and don't ask either. It's her job to let you know, not yours to inquire.

I'd stay away though, no reason to get involved with a married girl unless it's established it's an open relationship.

 

[Von]

Hey Big neil... maybe she meant her gay husband.... a lot of girls have ''gay husbyyyyss'' (gay dude for orbiter and bff).

The hint the guy could be gay or they in open relationship is ''bisexual''

Follow like you never read the instagram and just have fun. I believe she's dtf

 

[bigneil]

Thanks everyone.

So she showed up for our date last night and we did a photo shoot. She was the most beautiful date I ever had in my life, and the youngest by over 18 months. She came back to my hotel after dinner and she posed for a tasteful R rated photo (looked like an underwear ad) and then later with her naked in my bed I said "So you are married?" and she paused and I said "I'll take that as a yes." She said "He's more of a friend. We've been together since I was 14". I asked if he was gay and she said he was bisexual, that she always knew (and so is she) but unlike her, he had never acted on it.

So it didn't seem to impact anything and it was one of the best dates of my life. Given her age I won't hold it against her.