"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Date Ideas Under 21???

ENIGMA16

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So there's this girl whose number I got a while ago and I was going to get her out on a date but she's only 18 and I can't for the life of me think of something to do or where to take her. Generally this wouldn't be a problem but since it's winter and it's freezing out I'm pretty stumped. There's not enough snow to go sledding, I don't think the ice rink here is open yet (and I don't even have skates), the movies is f*cking lame and the bowling alley is 21+.

What's a man to do? I've never dated anyone under 21 before (for obvious reasons).
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Drewskie

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This should really be the least of your worries man. She doesn't care where you go anyway. Go play pool, find a different bowling alley, go out to eat, go to a "lame" movie, go see a band/show/whatever. rent a movie and watch it at your house, since it's so cold outside anyway.
 

salmon

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I love mini-dates -- doing several date-y things in a row. I tried to find the article I usually reference, but I can't seem to find it (I keep finding "how to make him fall in love with you" ones like this, but the basic principles are the same).

The key is to jump between places fairly quickly. We have lots of free things to do here (the museum, state library, a big riverside park, saturday night markets), and most have new attractions every few months, so it doesn't get too boring for me either :) I went on one this last Sunday afternoon (a day-2) -- saw an exhibition of early panoramic photos at the library (and did the jigsaw puzzles upside-down -- fun and lots of kino), over to the park to watch a short film festival, an ice cream and a walk by the river, walk across into the city, make out on the bridge, found dinner at one of my favorite hole-in-the-wall restaurants that most people don't know about, more making out by the river, a few drinks at a great little ****tail bar overlooking the city, then back to her place for the night...

The mini-dates make her feel like she's known you for much longer than you really have, you get to lead her around (a perfect opportunity to take her by the hand), show her places that she mightn't know about, and just have fun. This is pretty much my standard day-2 now (I'll mix it up a little, depending on what's on), but it's got a pretty good success rate. And I think it's a lot easier to build attraction and comfort that if you, say, invite her over to watch a movie -- she'll have the anti-slvt defences ready to go the second she walks in the door. And since she's 18, you'll most likely encounter either the "I need to love him first" or "I'm going to make him wait # dates".
 
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