Date Friday Night

[xenten]

Hi all. I have my first date with another girl. It has been a little over 1.5 years since my last first date. I am a little nervous, but not too bad. We are going to dinner. I thought about taking her back to my place to watch a movie after dinner. Would that be a good idea, or should I just take her home. I would go on a walk, but it is cold here. Do you pay for her dinner on the first date? Any other ideas?

Thanks,
Mooney

 

[sav]

the way i usually do it on a first "official" date.. is if she reaches for her wallet... then i say not to worry about it, and cover the bill itself.. if she expects me to pay for it.. i make a funny remark about it being the 21st century and that women pay for themselves


just take it easy, dont over think things.. and take it as it comes.. its hard to plan the "after the dinner" part because you dont know how well that will go.. its good to have some idea's about what to do... ask urself what you want from her... and take it from there...

 

[Leporello]

I'm in the same boat... first 'first date' in at least a year, depending on how you look at it. I'm most worried about the conversation lagging.

 

[saber]

i think traditional dating has some of the drawbacks you mentioned like $$$ and convo lacking...imo dinner and a movie is something people use cause they see others doing it

if ur nevrous for example y not take her to do a "fun activity" and then if all goes well just invite her to grab some take out and "something relaxing "at your place

I crash and burn the dinner dates cause they are boring but would probably try something like ice skating/minigolf/laser tag followed by going to a friends party or whatever then grab some take out and watch a movie at your house
but the activities kinda depend on the girls personality

 

[xenten]

There are no good activities here. No ice skating, mini golf, laster tag, go carts, or roller skating. That is why I can't think of a good activity. Bowling is down here, I could do that. So just pick her up and say, "I have something else in mind besides dinner." Or should I let her know before Friday so she won't be starving bowling?

 

[saber]

the more formal you make a date the more you screw yourself into paying,showing high IL and sticking to the plan

be imaginative for example one of my friends asked to use my spa but told the girl they were sneaking in...fun and creative

one time I took a girl to taco bell and back to my house on the first date cause im classy like that ...simple to the point

lol I heard a good one in which you buy a pack of seashells from the store and throw them on a secluded beach beforehand then take her shell collecting lmaf!!

if she likes you she wont care what you are doing as long as you do something plus seeing how she responds is a good way to determine her IL

practice makes person but as a general rule treat her more like a friend than a date with the exception of fooling around at your place after

its hard to say cause I dunno where you live but ask a friend

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

i think traditional dating has some of the drawbacks you mentioned like $$$ and convo lacking...imo dinner and a movie is something people use cause they see others doing it

if ur nevrous for example y not take her to do a "fun activity" and then if all goes well just invite her to grab some take out and "something relaxing "at your place

I crash and burn the dinner dates cause they are boring but would probably try something like ice skating/minigolf/laser tag followed by going to a friends party or whatever then grab some take out and watch a movie at your house
but the activities kinda depend on the girls personality

For some reason guys have a hard time interacting with women thus all of the great ideas for distraction dates. Dinner, movies, other events all detract from you. Guys just feel comfortable doing things when with others [guys]. They seldom interact with one another unless it's around an event such as watching the Sunday game. Women aren't guys.

Until they realize that quality women prefer to be with you instead of the event, guys will always end up with women who just want to be entertained. Once they get bored, they'll move on to the next guy who show them more entertaining things.

Why do you think so many guys believe that you need a ton of money to keep women interested? It's because it's "things" that is the only way that they know how to entertain women.

 

[Leporello]

I will say this: for the first date, keep it short. Under an hour if possible, and definitely not two. The idea is to avoid revealing your whole self at once and leave them wanting more while at the same time dispelling some of your anxiety.

A guy friend I kind of know once tried to date a female friend of mine. It started out well, but he simply WOULD NOT LEAVE until long after she got bored.

 

[xenten]

I chose the Mexican restaurant because it is not expensive and it is somewhere I enjoy eating. I'll may just take her back home after dinner and hang out with some friends later that night. Or I may just play it by ear and see how things go. Thanks for the help.

 

[Leporello]

I chose the Mexican restaurant because it is not expensive and it is somewhere I enjoy eating. I'll may just take her back home after dinner and hang out with some friends later that night. Or I may just play it by ear and see how things go. Thanks for the help.

Mexican (or any food that can get messy) might be tricky. of course, if it puts you at ease that's more important.

 

[xenten]

I just get tacos and a quesadilla and I'm not a sloppy eater like some people I see. I've had 2 other Mexican food first dates that worked out well, so I thoughts I'd keep the tradition going.