Date flake :( Advice?

[bender]

Hey guys,

so I just met this girl last Sunday, I was having dinner with a friend who left the country for a while, was sort of her going away dinner. There were a couple of her friends there, too, and one of them was really cute and seemed very interested in me, she kept on smiling at me all the time and so on, even though I didn't even try to game her (and she was sitting on the other side of the table, a couple seats away from me).
Anyways, so when we left the place she gave me her phone number right away and said we should hang out soon. I called her the next day since I hadn't given her my phone number, and she said she was going to go out on Saturday (today) with some of her friends, and I should come along. So I said why not and told her to call me again when she has figured out the details.
I was kinda busy during the week so didn't really have time to think about it but then today she called me and said they're not going out because her friend doesn't want to or something. And we should just meet another time. But she would be busy next week b/c of finals. But then she said they're not that hard anyways and whatever. It was a little weird. Maybe b/c I was pretty hung over. So I just said yeah I'll call you again another time, and I was going to say bye (I told her in the beginning I don't have much time, we're going to the beach with friends), but then she said she was gonna do picnic with friends, if I wanted to join. So I said, that's a good idea, give me a call and we left it at that.
The thing is of course I don't want her to have control over when we see each other the next time. So I wanna do something with her soon, b/c since I didn't see her for a week it'll be too late very soon (or is it too late already, does the flaking today mean she's not interested?). But I don't know what or how, since she doesn't have a car and lives a couple miles away, so if I come over to see her it's kinda too obvious that I want something from her since I already drove all the way. So I can't just tell her let's grab coffee or so.
Any ideas/suggestions?

 

[In2theGame]

Hey guys,

so I just met this girl last Sunday, I was having dinner with a friend who left the country for a while, was sort of her going away dinner. There were a couple of her friends there, too, and one of them was really cute and seemed very interested in me, she kept on smiling at me all the time and so on, even though I didn't even try to game her (and she was sitting on the other side of the table, a couple seats away from me).
Anyways, so when we left the place she gave me her phone number right away and said we should hang out soon. I called her the next day since I hadn't given her my phone number, and she said she was going to go out on Saturday (today) with some of her friends, and I should come along. So I said why not and told her to call me again when she has figured out the details.
I was kinda busy during the week so didn't really have time to think about it but then today she called me and said they're not going out because her friend doesn't want to or something. And we should just meet another time. But she would be busy next week b/c of finals. But then she said they're not that hard anyways and whatever. It was a little weird. Maybe b/c I was pretty hung over. So I just said yeah I'll call you again another time, and I was going to say bye (I told her in the beginning I don't have much time, we're going to the beach with friends), but then she said she was gonna do picnic with friends, if I wanted to join. So I said, that's a good idea, give me a call and we left it at that.
The thing is of course I don't want her to have control over when we see each other the next time. So I wanna do something with her soon, b/c since I didn't see her for a week it'll be too late very soon (or is it too late already, does the flaking today mean she's not interested?). But I don't know what or how, since she doesn't have a car and lives a couple miles away, so if I come over to see her it's kinda too obvious that I want something from her since I already drove all the way. So I can't just tell her let's grab coffee or so.
Any ideas/suggestions?

Hey Bender, It seemed like your putting too much thought in this one girl. Talk to other girls as well instead of wondering when you and her are going to hang out. She seems like she doesnt like doing much without her friends. Become the playboy.. Text her something teasy, and dont call her or wonder about her for a bit and focus on other girls.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Why is she the one in control?

Why are you agreeing to go on group dates?

You must take control and set a date where you and her are the only ones present!!

Suggest a after-finals summer-fling get-together.

 

[Obsidian]

meet her to do something fun without her lame friends. Now you obviously see why a MAN has to be in control of things. Women don't have a clue about how to run a relationship or GET ANYTHING DONE, for that matter. She keeps scheduling these events with her friends that never happen? I wonder why...Testosterone is required to take action and get things accomplished.

Be a man, and take action. She lives two miles away from you and you can't go pick her up?! Also, in2thegame is right that you need to begin focusing on other girls.

And start reading the Book of Pook. (Click on the DJ Bible link at the bottom.)

 

[bender]

@Last Man Standing:

Ok, maybe I didn't explain this enough. I barely know this girl, I met her once during that dinner with my friend, and it was just she was kinda giving me some IOIs even though we barely had the chance to talk. And I think she's cute, so I want to see her again. I agreed on that group date cuz I thought it would be a good chance to see her again and get to know her better while she could feel safe since her friends are still there. I can't go on a 1-on-1 date after knowing her for five minutes, right?

@Stormwatch13:
Well like I said, she doesn't live too close and doesn't have a car, so to have her over I'd have to drive to her place to pick her up and then bring her back. That's not only a hassle, but clearly puts her on a pedestal, b/c I'm going through all this trouble just to see her. I'm kinda looking for something more casual. And why should she come over to my place after knowing me for five minutes?

@Obsidian
It's a little more than two miles. And if I was to go somewhere where I'd usually go AND pick her up it would be quite a drive since she's not on the way. So again, barely knowing her, that would demonstrate too much interest, right?

 

[Obsidian]

I can't go on a 1-on-1 date after knowing her for five minutes, right?

WRONG. Ask her out already, and abandon your chumpish ways! If she just gave you her # out of the blue, what the heck do you think she wants you to do? After you've asked her out, read the Bible.

if you want to establish a bit more comfort with a girl first, you can phone her BRIEFLY (key word) or talk to her on aim for a short period. If you do this once (or possibly twice) it will create the illusion that she knows you because, hey, she's interacted with you on multiple occasions. The next logical step would be a physical get-together.

But you've already done all that, it sounds like, so ask her out already! You have no alternative. What are you gonna do, wait for her to buy a car? Use yours to your advantage.