"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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MisterMcGee

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I'm gonna be calling this girl and asking her on a mall date, on either wednesday or thursday. She's legitimately been busy though (i know this) and either may not be able to make it, or her parents won't let her go.
~~~revoked~~~I've been thinking a counter offer on my part would be "i'll help you out then, what's your address?" etc ~~~revoked~~~

I'll be seeing her at a christmas party for my work one week from now, so maybe that makes a better counter offer type thing.
She'll know my intentions of dating her and being more than friends, so asking her out to the mall beforehand, even if it doesn't go through, will probably make our interactions more intimately-charged at the party, since she'll know my intentions full-stop.
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"MisterMcGee, don't make me angry!"

First of all, no asking her out for a "date". If you are unsure of her interest, or she's unsure about you, comitting to a "date" might be just a little too much. You pretty much know she'll decline, due to being "legitimately busy".

Why don't you wait, and try to test her interest during the party next week? You can see how she reacts, and try to escalate and/or move things further, without her getting freaked out about a "date" with you, beforehand.
 

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I was thinking asking her on a date beforehand would be bold and clear enough that it would make 'testing her interest' a lot easier during the party.
And she gave me her number yesterday. She should be expecting something, no? Not sure if she'd be freaked out, and if she is slightly, then at least I'm being bold and setting the stage for our interactions. I'm done with the subtle stuff
 
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