"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Date at the mall

Bill-RiZeR

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Okay. Finally this girl and I are going to go on yet another date, and this time it's at the mall. Basically we're gonna play at the arcades, eat, and walk around the mall looking at stuff.

My ultimate purpose of this date is to get to know each other better, especially in a place where there's so many things to look at.

So, do you guys have any good tips to give me that'll help me increase my chances of her getting to like me? Basically anything to make us a step closer to becoming a couple? Much is appreciated...and this may be part 2 of our second date. (Btw, she's the one who suggested to be at the mall together on our first date.)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I'm Joe Dirt

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Just make sure you don't become her "mall buddy" by always being in that location. I would suggest a venue change.
 

Bill-RiZeR

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Aight...any other things too? Compliment obviously is a good thing, just don't overdo it or look like I'm kissing ass...Listen to her with interest...any other good stuff?

And btw, I will not buy her stuff, cuz I'll seem too easy (well except for food, since well....guys pay for the food!)

Victoria's Secret? Wtf? I find that place like a death trap to men...

But like I said...need ways to get closer to her, and I know talk is a good way...any other stuff?
 

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DO NOT ---- I REPEAT --- DO NOT go to a mall with a chick to look at stuff!

Where I live, the cinema is in a mall, so when I go to the movies, i have no choice. But, you just go to the movies. Don't go shopping after!

Think about it for a second. You are going to a mall with a chick. Chicks love to shop (most of em'). So, you go to the mall, have a bite to eat, play some arcade games, but then you are going to be hanging around stores, waiting for her to try on clothes, making you a bigtime CHUMP. She will probably even ask for your approval (big time friend zone here)

If a chick is going to go shopping, it's with her chick friends, not with a date.

Seriously dude, don't do a mall date.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Bill-RiZeR

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Then what do you suggest? Cuz it seems like the mall date is kinda decided...

So I'm gonna have to go through this... >___<
 

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Whatever you do, whatever floats your boat, take HER out with YOU. It's her that's getting in YOUR reality, not the other way around.

To explain my point: When you see "that married couple"... shopping. Is he shopping, or is it him who is shopping? Who's having the fun?
 

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LOL! I think there needs to be some damage control to this 'mall date' - Go there for lunch, and then proceed to get the hell outta there to somewhere active, at least fun.
 

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Ok the only way I would recommend this date is if you have pretty good skills. The reason is this...

If you are out and the entire time you are having conversations with other beautiful women then you're value is going to go through the roof. She'll rip your clothes off, but if you're just gonna be by her side the entire time paying her special attention then it's very risky.
 
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