"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dark Triads relationships seems fake?

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"The truth of the matter is that if you did not neurologically develop a dark triad personality as a child, you will never be completely dark triad in the truest sense of the classification. The dark triad is essentially not something one can be trained to become, however it can be reverse engineered and emulated."

I don't know how many of you have experienced this in real life and whether this is rarer than common, but in my life, I had the pleasure to observe two couples LTR's, where the man exhibited dark triad traits and the woman had some psychological issues.

In both cases, the women are promiscuous and have, in fact, cheated in their current relationships with these men.
These relationships have many ups and downs; it's hard to see these individuals living a "normal life," but there is so much drama, guys, in everything they do. The women are very insecure and absorb the self-esteem and confidence that these men only seem to possess, because they're instead very weak at the core (narcisism).

These men are strategists, and their relationships are like a game of chess. You can see them because they are never relaxed; every event and little detail has no value for them, except for the opportunistic one of advancing in life and obtaining rewards.

They are two skilled flatterers and persuaders, and their women beg them for sex, not the other way around.
The women pay for travel, accommodation, bills, expenses, and much more. One of them even joined her father's company and is now its heir. I would like to know the "Mature Man"'s perspective on this type of relationships, and if those people are really experiencing wellbeing, as they show, or if those people will never experience a deeper connection of themselves, and which, is the type of relationship that would let two people experience the right things?
Also, why would you know and put in practice dark triads skills, if of any help in life?

P.S.: It is not at all excluded that these women appear very attached and dependent on these men, but in the meantime, they are juggling multiple relationships and receiving sex secretly from other men.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This is also of help


Thus talk about masochist people, and how they find "pleasure" on being humiliate, and how they repulse kindness/love for feelings such as pain/avoidance.
Those people feel love the wrong way, they need to be despised.
 

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Most of that is grounded in childhood trauma patterns.


No, they shouldn't be despised.
You don't get to decide how people receive love and pleasure. There is no 'right' or 'wrong' only 'healthy' or 'harmful'. For some, there is no pleasure without pain and no laughter without crying.
Don't judge what you don't understand or agree with.
What I meant is that they want to be "despised" to be happy.
I never meant they need to be despised because are bad people.
Sorry for my bad argumentation.
 
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