"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Daniel and Ali love story, the karate kid

pyros

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I was watching (again) The Karate Kid (original) the other day and I thought about the relationship between Daniel and his gf Ali. It is just so nice.
They casually meet, well, she actually is looking at him to show interest, then his friends make him go meet her with the excuse of the soccer ball...they laugh etc.

They see each other in highschool everyday, they talk, laugh etc, they sit together to have lunch; she's always smiling, she looks for excuses to bump into him etc, she keeps showing interest. He actually does little to nothing to 'seduce her', cause she already likes him.

They go to the amusement park, they kiss, they take pics together...etc.
A few dates later she svcks his **** and lets him fvck her doggy style....lol, just kidding.

Anyway, this reminds me very much of what happened with my first and second gfs....but now that I am 29, and after meeting several different women...what I just mentioned before it has never happened again. I mean, I've been on dates, and I've had sex with these chicks...but...it was completely different, there wasnt that nice/magic feeling that happens when you meet a girl that you really like, and you both really click, and everything goes smooth from the begining.

With all these women, more often than not I either found them hot but I did not really like their personalities, or vice versa. Many times they were spoiled in one or several ways, many of them were too entitled (like the majority of women nowdays). Some flaked on my one or two times, some were seing other guys at the same time, some others were still hung up to their exes...and in order to have sex with them I had to put so much effort. I mean, I had to try to pick up MANY MANY girls just to have sex with a few of them. I had dozens and dozens of rejections..., sometimes I got obsessed and over-analysed everything...you get the picture.
Of course I did not feel love for any of these chicks.

So my final thought is...were are all the good girls? girls that make it easy, girls that are not fvcked up in the head, girls that are not banging several dudes in parallel. Girls that do not string guys along and do not play games, girls that have studies, have a nice family and are fun to be around. Girls that are not fat or covered with tattoos, girls that are not selfish and selfcentered as hell...good girls that are single, where??


Where can I find my Ali again? you know? it seems impossible...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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pyros said:
now that I am 29, and after meeting several different women...what I just mentioned before it has never happened again.
When you are young, you are naïve, and when you start to fall for someone you don't know yet about all the possible pitfalls you are exposing yourself to. And young girls may not have had so much male attention that they are badly spoiled yet. As you get older, and you've been burned a few times, then the walls start to come up, and you guard yourself, and people start to play games to protect themselves. So that's why it doesn't happen so naturally as it does when you are very young.

That's not to say it can't happen again, though. I've had a few such pleasant experiences when I was older than you, so it can happen.
 

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When that happens again you lock it down. I know what you mean. When I was young, around 21, I liked a girl and we became friends. Over time we got closer and wind up dating for a while. It was such a beautiful and sweet relationship. After we broke up there were many years where I, like you, dated and had sex with different women but nothing reached the pinnacle of that 21 year old relationship. That is until recently where I have been seeing a girl and I didn't play games to get her at all. I wasn't boring or an AFC but we just clicked. The young age added to the beauty of it, as we were both young and naive, but the 21 year old relationship was very special. It is something I think about when I had bad times with girls before I met this one chick. It makes this current one more special because I had to go through a lot of eh dates to find this one.
 
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