"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dangerous Heart Rate

LMJamie

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Hey everyone,

I've been putting in the hours in the gym recently to improve my fitness and generally help me to feel better. I always go full out and push myself to the limit, and am a firm believer that this will improve my fitness and health the fastest.

Recently, my gym has had cardio-monitoring equiptment installed and I have been using them to measure my heart rate when I exercise. Apart from a ten-minute warm up jog on the treadmill, I always push myself fast enough to get my heart rate up to 190 and it has even been recorded on two occasions at 209.

Is this dangerous? I occasionally feel slightly faint after an intensive workout but nothing more than to be expected after an hour of exercise. My mum is a nurse and says I should be very careful as 209 is exceptionally high. Is she right? Isn't it better to get your heart rate as high as reasonably possible? :confused:

Jamie
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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earthshyne

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Originally posted by LMJamie Isn't it better to get your heart rate as high as reasonably possible?
Well, if "better" means angina and potential ischemia (go look it up) then I suppose so.

Let's use an analogy.

If you have a tach in your car, you'll note that at some point there's a redline. Revving the engine to such a rate is, in a word, bad. Not only do you run the risk of launching the pistons through the head and into low earth orbit, you also won't be developing any more power anyway.

Your heart is not that different. At such a high rate, it will have a hard time keeping its rhythm (hence the faint feeling) and no matter how much faster it pumps the viscosity of your blood simply won't allow the heart to push any more.

Work on the fundamentals first. Start slow, building endurance and muscle mass. You're constructing a foundation, and just like building a house, you can't safely make the upper floors without a strong foundation first.
 

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Thanks for your reply earthshyne.

I play 5-a-side football (soccer) and want to be able to last for a full 60 mins while always having the energy to accelerate and burst into a sprint every few minutes to chase the ball. I've been told I should do HIIT but isn't this just the same as running at about a 180 heart rate for a 5 minute period then up to say 190 or 195 for about 30 seconds or so? I never get my heart rate over 200 for more than about 60 seconds, so won't getting it really high for only a short time improve my ability to sprint into full speed in a football match when i'm tired?

Jamie
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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When your heart is beating that fast, it does not work well. There isn't enough time for the blood to fill the heart before it gets pumped out. Hence, poor perfusion and a faint feeling. Work hard, but don't kill yourself.
 
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