dancing without getting excited

[dapork]

well ever since I was young, whenever I did that kinda dancing (I forget what it's called now, used to be freak dancing or grinding) where you get really close, leg between crotch etc... I would always get excited. but I was able to adjust myself so that it'd be sticking up instead of out, and so that she wouldn't feel it (I assume). well that was all fine for parties, casual dress, easy to adjust.

I always thought it would go away as I danced more often. that's what friends told me. but I went through this period where I got depressed at dances (maybe still do, dunno), and I stopped for a while, so last year when I went to homecoming, I had to stop in the middle of dance cause I was getting excited (and I wasn't adjusted).

this is gonna be a pain in the ass for prom. what should I do? wack off before going? will that be enough? I don't want dancing to be unenjoyable. I'm hoping to actually get into a relationship with my date before I go so that I don't have to worry about it, but chances are slim.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Do you honestly think they dont wanna feel it? They suck it and stick it in em but you think they wouldnt wanna feel one on their ass??

 

[blienk]

Oak is right, it's more of an embarassment to be grinding with a hot chick and NOT have a boner...The boner simply introduces sexual tension into the equation a step earlier, which is exactly what you want.

 

[NRM]

Haha, yeah, the guys are right. The girl wants to know you're excited just like you wish you could know if they were getting wet and horny over you. Don't sweat it.

 

[ShizamDaMan]

Frankly, I think there's more of a problem if you're grinding a hot chick and dont bust wood...

 

[dapork]

what!?!?! I mean I'd love to know and really feel this is true... I just don't know. do you guys get it when you dance? and do they know it? I mean this a girl I'm not with yet.

 

[NRM]

Haha, my girlfriend knows when I'm turned on even when we aren't dancing. But yeah, she notices it, and it just gets her more off. It's like telling a girl "I want you right now." They just get excited and stuff. So yes, they notice it, and they don't mind it.

 

[dapork]

and when we walk away from the dance floor I'll be like "look out"
hey if this is true, it's gonna be a great night

 

[blienk]

I mean, it's one thing to just start rubbing your boner against the ass of some random chick on the dance floor. This is not good and would probably creep her out.

But if this is a girl that you're on a date with, who you expect to get action from later that night, then what are you worried about? You think this girl will be willing to put your c*ck in her mouth, but is gonna get freaked out if she feels it under your clothes while you're grinding? Just think about it logically. An erection is simply a natural reaction that shows sexual interest...If this girl has any interest in you, she will be happy to feel that the interest is mutual.

I honestly feel embarrassed if I'm dancing with a hot girl and don't get noticeably hard.

 

[MetalFortress]

Originally posted by dapork
what!?!?! I mean I'd love to know and really feel this is true... I just don't know. do you guys get it when you dance? and do they know it? I mean this a girl I'm not with yet.

Imagine a hot girl who you are dancing with, and imagine feeling her boobs on your chest, or her rubbing her crotch on you when grinding, and how much that turns you on.

Now, imagine why it would be the same way for her. Why would it NOT?

 

[adpreston1988]

Do you guys prefer to grind w/ briefs, boxers, or boxer briefs? I used to just grind with boxers, but lately I've preferred boxer briefs. They hide your erection a little more, but still give you that freedom (unlike briefs)

 

[guayaballer]

it hurts though if you have an erection and the girl grinds hard on you. sometimes i feel she might break it but yea that would be my reason for adjusting it under my belt

 

[eminence]

and when we walk away from the dance floor I'll be like "look out"

alright its one thing to let her know its there, its another thing to flaunt it, dont walk around prom with a massive erection sticking straight out, tuck it under your belt.

 

[TheNewGuy]

alright its one thing to let her know its there, its another thing to flaunt it, dont walk around prom with a massive erection sticking straight out, tuck it under your belt.

"Its the uhh pattern of the pants. Yeah its weird, I gotta take them back to uhhh the pants store today."

 

[donjuanjovi]

If you're worried than tuck it up under the belt. I did the same thing on the bus in grade 9 :box:

 

[CCKazi007]

Dude man don't worry about it, I would get boners on the bus, during class, gym class, basketball game, baseball game, walking in the hall and while slow dancing. Seriously if you don't make it obvious ppl won't notice that much... well they prob did but they didn't say anything. The problem with mine is it usually pops out of my boxers or my pants... and I'll have a huge weggie so I have to reach down and adjust it. But usually girls like it, one time I was slow dancing and I had a semi-boner and accidently poked her in the leg. She didn't mind she actually got closer to feel it! Well if your still worried u can always wear briefs or tie your d*ck down using tape... long jeans are your FRIEND.

 

[JayCamx23]

who gives a ****. they like it. i felt the same way when i first got into the grinding thing. i was like, "dont get hard or they are gonna walk away". you WILL get hard if you are at all turned on. you just have to accept it and just keep goin. from my experience most girls like it, and will still hook up with you regardless. so just dont worry and have fun

 

[saber101]

My school has a dance coming up in 2 weeks and i was just wondering would grade nine women care if you popped a boner while grinding/slow dancing or w/e. Because I already know grade nines tend to be more tight than girls in other grades. So if i were to go up to some gerade nine and ask her to dance, would she get creeped out if i popped one? Btw i'm in grade 11

 

[Mr_rogers]

As my good friend Azreal says...

"But, the best part, and this one really gets me going, is that there are some women who get royally pissed off when they grind with a guy and he pops a stiffy. Um…hi. Did you happen to miss that day of sexual education in middle school? Do you not know how the system works? If you're going to be simulating sex with a guy, he's going to react! What do you expect?

If you do not want to feel my penis, perhaps you should not be thrusting your ass into my crotch. Repeatedly. "

^ If they get pissed, tell them to undress so it'll feel better for both parties.

DISCLAIMER: I'm not responsible if you get slapped, sacked or otherwise injured or maimed for following my advice. Sublety was never my strong suit.

Oh, and that quote is from www.outpost9.com. I think. :s

 

[saber101]

yes yes but what about the grade nines??