"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dancing with women who I aren't going to score with... not into?

Reyaj

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Unusual topic but I was out in a popular night scene area and I was sort of observing the social dynamics.....

So obviously a lot of women go out with their cliques, some of who include male friends. I notice a lot of times they will dance with the male friends but nothing more... its all done in a friendly way...

The thing is the guys seem into just the friendly dancing... I guess I am just weird but unless I am seeing/hooking up with a girl or... at least trying to... I have no interest in dancing with a girl... I mean I see these other guys just having fun dancing... but I'm like wtf.... I feel no inclination to do it...

why tease myself??
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Tiguere

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We latinos see dancing as a passion.... Also traditional in our culture. Caribbean central and South America.

Salsa merengue.. Bachata.. Tango in Argentina flamenco in spain punta in Honduras.. Vallenato y cumbia in Colombia and dont get me started on the Reggaeton..


Man you dont know what you're missing. YouTube bachata dance and you can practically pickup a girl without saying a word dancing that sh! T.
 

zekko

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Tiguere, the OP did say that he was talking about dancing with girls he wasn't into. IMO, I would say that dancing with any girl would be showing some social proof, so I don't see how it could be bad.
 

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Dear Reyaz,
Dancing is a life time commitment....People do it for many reasons,both physical and social....To succeed you have to tread your way carefully into the Social Milieu,you will not be accepted as one of the in crowd until your dancing is at a respectable level.....Once you have mastered that,you can pounce on the learners from the vantage point of skill and respectability...I am not talking of discos here but of venues,where the clientele dance Ballroom,Tango,Siroc,R&R,Salsa etc...You as a blow in will be laughed at!.....Even when accepted,picking up Birds will not be an everyday occurrence,over a three month period,in each circle you can make it with one Girl,to treat the group as a carousel wont work,the Jungle Tom Toms start beating the moment you turn up,get a reputation as a "Player"and news will spread through the group like the Black Death....So one must tread cautiously and pick targets carefully!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Learn popping and locking... super fun on the dancefloor, women don't even factor into that equation.

You can buy tutorial videos at your local video store for like 20 bucks a shot.
 

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Being a half-decent dancer will get you a lot more interest from women IME.

So to that end it does help you to be seen dancing with a variety of women, even if you have no/little interest in most of them.
 

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It depends on whether they come up to dance with you (pre-selection), or you're seen approaching to ask for and then try to dance with them.
 
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