"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dancing question

Fortunate_Juan

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So last night I was on the dance floor. I see a pretty girl who's been dancing with other guys all night, she comes back from bathroom or something else that brought her off the floor, made eye contact held it for awhile and smiled walked over we danced a lil bit then these drunk AFC's came over and started dancing behind her, which I didn't really care about since she was lookin in to my eyes most of the dance and not paying attention to the Vanilla Ice wanabes. But a couple of times she allowed her self to be pulled away to dance with the guys. Now at this point I would just go off and dance by my self for a bit cuz I am a good dancer and I enjoy it. Couple times I caught her lookin at me even tho she was dancin with tweedle dumb and tweedle dee. Every time she allowed her self to be pulled away and dance wit other guys, I would back off. When she tried to get me involved with the other guys behind her I backed off. But after a lil bit of dancing w/ the wonder twins she'd always make her way back to me.

My main question is, should I have stepped between the guys and her. And should I have continued to dance with her when one of the guys was behind her tryin to do his thing. Or do you guys think it was better that I walk away.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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vivavllv

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It was good that you walked away, it showed that your not needy. You should have danced with other girls getting her jealous. After working her on that you should have gone up to her and grabed her by the hand as if you knew her. Bring her somewhere quiet, "I just had to same you from Emienem over there...........then again you DID look like you where having the time of your life."
 

PRMoon

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"Hey it's a little crowded out here right now. Lets go to the bar, and get some drinks."

Done and done.
 

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Or don't put so much value in one particular girl.

A girl is a girl is a girl.

This is ESPECIALLY true at a club.

If girl A is showing you interest based PURELY on your look, girl B and girl C will like your look as well. Its just a matter of attracting them through some game.

So if your moving in on girl A but she is moving towards douche A and douche B, 180 on her. Turn your back on her. Walk away.

Do this, NOT to get HER jealous.

Do this for you.

Do this because your a man. Your a DJ. Your a PUA.

Why would a man, a DJ, a PUA waste his time on one club girl, when there is so many other club girls out tonight?

Don't waste your time taking on AFCs. You gain nothing.
 

Fortunate_Juan

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Thanks

I did feel like I had done the right thing, not completely right but then again I started DJ'n only a few months ago. So the consensus is that when she allows her self to be taken away, don't fight it, go out and find some one else. If this makes her jealous, cool, if not, I don't lose out on anything since she probably isn't interested enough anyways. But when some guy starts dancin up on your chick what should you do?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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penkitten

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PRMoon said:
"Hey it's a little crowded out here right now. Lets go to the bar, and get some drinks."

Done and done.
exactly
 

SeldomSeen

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she's not your chick. You made it seem like you just met her and then you said "when guys start dancing with your chick what do you do"

Anyway I let it go. I usually go off to another area of the dancefloor. An interested girl will come, grab me and say "why did you leave me with those guys or where are you going?" Attention *****s want to be seen dancing with all types of guys.
Just play it cool and dont play alot of weight on it. Now if she is actually your girl then its a different story.
 
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