"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Dancing, is it possible to Don Juan without?

ImmortalDragon

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I know that you won't dance with every girl you meet, but I have a strange hatred towards dancing (started in elementary school, long story). I refuse to dance in any situation and even with a girl I refuse to dance. I don't know if I can dance or not but either way I won't. Would this affect my ability to get girls in anyway?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ser_i

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depends I guess, In a club it works to get the body feeling heet up when slow dancing R&B style making it more sexy, I'm a breakdancer, a streetdancer and I know salsa, and a few others...

but I only use it when I allready know there is a connection, or I just do it for the dancing cause I like it, never to impress (if they get impressed.. well they did right?)

on the other hand I've had succes on many occasions ( no not like quazillion times) without really dancing at all, just starting the conversation using your skillz on a communicative manner ;)
 

i am me

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When you go to things like your Senior Prom, you're going to look really bad if you don't dance. Just get out there and do it. Seriously...dancing (even if it's not that good) will raise your "social status" because it shows you're not afraid to get down. Be a Man. Avoid dances when you can but don't be scared to do it. Also, if you keep trying, you'll get better...believe me, I know.:D
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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skeeloo

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hey i suck at dancing to, but its easier when a girl back her thing up on you all you have to do is follow her movements, i hate dancing to and i wonder when people will stop watching my everymove in night clubs this alone makes me hate dancing.
 

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De Angelo

De Angelo wrote something somewhere about the poor saps who stand at the edge of the dancefloor only watching while the DJ's mix it up with the chicks.

My observation is the exact opposite. I have even sent a chick off to dance with an AFC because I really dont like dancing. I have no problem singing, but I hate dancing. The blokes dancing are able to get the girls a bit worked up, but they rarely seem to score, its usually a predator watching from the sidelines who scores.

Dance if you like dancing, but if you dont, then simply dont. YOU are a DJ and YOU know what YOU like. Dont let any chick, or any AFC tell you, "go on, you gotta" what a CROCK.
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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im not good at dancing, i never really danced, only slow danced with girls at discos but that is not really dancing, its just swaying from side to side gently whilst turning around in a cirlce whilst squeezing her arse and i think the only good thing about slow dancing, is, well...squeezing her arse :p
 

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I think it's best to be congruent in the situation. If I like the music I dance. But when I'm picking up girls. I don't waste my energy dancing that much anymore. Most of the time I get them off the dancefloor. Anyway most girls that are dancing are in party mode. If you start dancing with them, she will respond positive most of the time. However I found that you'll have to entertain them with the dancing, to keep things interesting. I don't like that. So I go for the kiss as soon as possible. So for me dancing is going direct.

I only do it when I'm really in that right vibe, otherwise I just chill at the bar. Belief me enough HB's ordering stuff there and easier to make convo.

So although dancing gives another dimension to picking up, it definitely isn't a must. But I really would recommend a grinding session, it's easy and hot.
 

skeeloo

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another thing i experienced is that if the ladies are attracted to you theyll hover around you even if youa rnt dancing. i hang around the bar and go to the dance floor once in a while.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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The more skills you utilize, the more opportunities you will encounter.
 

Climax

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Dancing > *

I find dancing a great way to pick up chicks... you just go onto the dancefloor, spot a chick that u want, then go dance next to her for a minute or two, then just move closer to her and start dancing with her... after about 5 minutes of dancing you just pull her, and then just keep on dancing some more.... what i normally do is after i kiss her, i dance for about 5 minutes longer, then take her aside, get her name and number, and tell her that i'm gonna go to mu buddies now.

This is a great way to pick up chicks @ clubs, i once got with 8 different chicks in 1 night in 1 club doing just that. So if you know how to dance, USE it, its a GREAT advantage on the other guys that cant dance and end up just WATCHING you have all the fun;)

And if you CANT dance, then learn, its not hard at all... but like anything else... you need practice in order to become good at it;)


Laterz...
 

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I have to add: if you're not dancing then you should be socializing. Sitting there and not doing anything will make you look like a loser.
 

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...its as though dancing with a bird gives you license.

You dont have to be able to dance to do this. Just move your body in time to the music and move closer to your target.

FFS! It aint Ballroom!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Joe The Homophobe

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If you hate dancing but you think it is necessary then there is is a simple solution. Avoid all the stupid dancing (which is most of them), you know the dancing moving your arms like an idiot etc and all these modern dancing.

instead, only dance with girls in the slow romantic songs. In these you barely break a sweat you just walk as you hold the girl tight and she has her arms around you.

OLD STYLE SLOW DANCING IS THE REAL DANCING! You would never see legendary men like John Wayne dancing like the idiots in the clubs these days!
 

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I wouldn't worry too much about it. My room mate doesn't dance either and he still pulls plenty of quality tail. Sure he tries to dance sometimes but preferes to find is prospects at the bar. I think dancing will definately help you in the long run but it's not a deal breaker.
 
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