dancing help

[smoothtalker72]

i really need help with dancing preferably grinding. i kinda get the concept of following the girl's movements but at times i either find myself lost or not knowing what to do. for example, i might be fine until the girl decides to booty clap on my waist, i dont know what to do. thats just one example but i hope you get the picture. im good with following easy motions but i get lost when the girl decides to do something else and at that point the gets bored with my ineptitude and walks away. so any advice on what to do when grinding would be helpful. i dance with primarily black/hispanic girls if that helps.

 

[Commandante]

Dancing is like life. You lead and the woman follows, not reverse.

 

[Allurre]

Treat dancing like tango, it takes two and great understanding.

Before you expect yourself to FULLY understand how she moves, study her for the first 1 minute. Study her pattern.

Don't utterly stop and study though.

This method works if you want to let her lead.

Of course, you should also be the one to lead when on the dance floor, that gives you more control and dominance. Girls love it.

You should also youtube for dance moves, or watch more R&B music videos with Usher or Chris Brown in them grinding with a woman -- though choreographed.

If you really want to up your game, imagine yourself dancing with women in various situations, places, pace.

Imagine first, then move.

 

[Captain Harlock]

imagine your **** as a grinding tool, and her ass as a piece of metal that needs to be grinded smooth. It's called grinding for a reason.

 

[Jblitz59]

Learn some new dancemoves on youtube such as the moonwalk, perfect them, use them. After you do this, you will become so confident in ur dancing from everyones OO's and AH's, you will be a ****y bastard at grinding.

It's all in your mind, dude.

 

[Salt]

I always try not to think to much about it. When the tempo is of I usually try to grab hold of her and lead her into my own tempo or synchrinize with hers. It also gives you the advantage of letting the dance close in to a face to face kind of dance with slow tempo while you look her in the eyes, after that it´s only a matter of seconds before you get the opportunity to kiss her. If the signs are right, for example she smiles back at you etc, etc (you can´t miss the signs) it´s green light to kiss.
You don´t try that with a woman that has´nt given you any signs of affection though.

 

[nismo-4]

First off, you're the man. Lead, not follow.

If you need to learn some new moves, watch some music videos. They're all over youtube. Michael Jackson's steps will not die out!

 

[smoothtalker72]

I understand that leading is generally up to the guy but you have to understand that most if not all guys in the clubs I go to let the girl lead. Its pretty much expected. If I try to lead the girl just continues to do her own thing and eventually leaves. So what im asking is how do I react when the girl decides to do something unexpected like suddenly change to a motion that I can't really immitate like the booty clap on my crotch.

 

[scrouds]

stand there and enjoy it. Smack her ass or something. You don't have to mirror everything she does.

I have absolutely no idea how to dance. I kinda just do my thing and fake it. Don't let this sh|t faze you. Hell last time I went out some chick wanted a picture with me. And I was pissed off that night cause we got to the club 1.5 hours after i wanted to be there. Whatever i'm rambling

FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT.

 

[ready123]

fvck dance classes. 90% of the people in the club can't dance anyway, including the guys that are pulling the girls home

and it's not the fact she's leading or you're leading that's killing it. it's the fact you're so nervous she can tell you're not having any fun so she doesn't have any fun and has to go find her fun elsewhere

here's what I usually do when I'm dancing
- if she's grinding I don't even try to copy her because I suck at it. Most of the time, unless I'm zoning out to a song, after about 15-30 secs I'll turn her around
- once in awhile, stick my thigh in between her legs and let her grind her pvssy on it. <-- other than this I don't do anything else besides grooving a basic two step
- once in awhile, I'll grind MY ass on her because that sht's funny to me
- shut my brain off and groove/mouth to the music with conviction. watch what happens when you're dancign with a girl and you start mouthing the Drake song to her (roleplaying like she's your girl hahaha)
- if she's having fun, I put my hand on the side of her face while we both grooving. then I look into her eyes while smiling. then I move my face close to her's but I don't kiss her. then I back away holding eye contact and keep dancing. there, I just created a moment hahaha
- if she's really into me, I grab her hands and put them on my shoulders and slide them down my chest all the way to my c0ck
- go down to the floor for fun. see if she follows. tell her it's her turn. if she won't, I smile and tell her I hate her
- if she's a good dancer and your'e really having fun, tell her how fun she is to dance with. watch her laugh. if you feel the chemistry it's a done deal
- sneak a kiss. don't telegraph it, just sneak it. if you both are having fun this is easier than you think

notice how most of that sht doesn't even directly have anything to do with dancing. but I'm having fun and that's what makes the difference. (HINT: if you're trying to micromanage your dance moves in order to react to what she's doing every 10 seconds, you're not having fun. cut that sht out!)

 

[the freshmaker]

its not about leading or dance classes

when shes grinding on you, just enjoy it and grind back