"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hi i have a dance coming up soon and im going with someone.. and the problem is ive never like danced / grinded before so i dont really know how to. and this dance is pretty much all dancing. im not really sure on how im supposed to do it can anyone give me some tips
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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LostAndConfused

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with grinding, usually the girl does most of the work. You just sit back and enjoy it. Most girls in high school around your age though aren't that good at grinding, so don't expect it to be all that great. If you get pretty good at dancing, you can do body waves and other neat things while the girl is grinding on you, making her more interested, but I wouldn't be too caught up in it.

with regular slow dancing, you grab the girl right above the hips (its easy to know where to hold her if she isn't fat and she has the hourglass shape, its where she gets skinny above the hips). She'll usually put her hands on your shoulders.

Proximity will be your biggest issue when you slow dance. Heres the key though: HAVE CONFIDENCE!!! Don't start off slowdancing with her at arms length away (like 2+ feet) and slowly creeping closer and closer to her. Thats a TERRIBLE mistake, and you don't come off as confident, and thats a sign of weakness. Of course, your 14, she's probably around your age, so you don't have to have your bodies touching, as she'll probably feel awkward, but get fairly close.

Whenever you dance though, make sure you dance on beat! From my experience, alot of girls have a natural feeling for rhythm, and they can dance to the beat naturally. But yeah, if you don't have that natural feel to the beat of the song, just count out the rhythm in your head.

concerning ur date, don't dance with her every song. Many guys come off as desparate when they are asking their date to dance with them at every slow song or grind with them at every fast song. Scout out other prey, dance with other girls....but make sure to dance with your date too!

Good luck
 
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Start strong, finish strong, don't bother waiting to inch in, just go for it.

You could be like all the other guys who just stand there and get grinded on, or you can put some effort in and be considerred a good dancer.

check out this article I wrote on club dancing and grinding, it can be aplied to a high school dance.
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/415359/a_mans_guide_to_club_dancing.html
 
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