"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dancing Bible

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So you wanna dance eh?
At a club or at a school you can't go wrong.
Now here are my pickings of the best dance threads.

Inner game to get you in the mindset
The Dance
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Have a fun time and enjoy yourself!
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I just learned how to salsa dance the last couple of weeks, man this is fun when you get into it and have a hot partner to show you the moves. I danced and salsa'd(is that a word) for 5 or so hours new years eve until I was so tired we had to stop at 5:30 in the morning. Gotta love clubs in mexico tourist towns!
 

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I don't think you can learn to dance from those videos.

The only way you can learn to dance is to dance. Dance by yourself, or with chicks at bars... doesn't matter... the more you dance the better you get. It's that simple.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Importance of Dance game

Dance Game by Asian Playboy

wanted to throw in a quick blurb of the importance of Dance Game.

First of all, dance game is a huge demonstration of value and sexuality. It really sets you apart from the circle of lamers. You don’t even have to be really good, just good enough to make the GIRL look good dancing with you.

I myself only know a few moves, but I can mix it up a lot and match it with what the girl is doing and it actually looks like I know what I’m doing. The only ones who can tell that I’m only using basic movements are the guys and girls that are actually any good.

Secondly, it’s a great opportunity to isolate and physically escalate. You don’t want to stay in high energy mode too long. Once you feel like escalating, SLOW HER DOWN. Then take her hands, place them on your shoulders (having her hands locked behind your neck), and SLOW DANCE. **** the high energy music, you’re creating a very intimate, dominant frame where it’s US versus THEM. Great time to kino and kiss.

Finally, it’s just good for you physically and your body language. Especially with hip hop dancing, which requires both upper AND lower body movement. You need muscles in your torso, arms, and legs in order to do a few moves like “popping” and it gives you a more finely controlled, toned, yet relaxed body language beyond just dancing.

Basically, you can use dancing to open up girls on the dance floor (I don’t use that method myself) as well as pulling girls to the dance floor and then upping the physicality.

Another method to open with dance, which sometimes I’ll use, is when girls are off the dance floor and kind of just bebopping to the music, not fully dancing but feeling the dance energy and sexuality. As I’m walking by, I’ll kind of be nodding my head (while I’m smiling of course) and make a motion with my hands (and thusly my upper body) that’s in tune with the beat. Usually the girls will then assume that I can dance, smile at me, and comment. Roll from there.
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