"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dancing and getting hard or should i say not getting hard

Kenny Powers

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alright i know its normal to get hard while dancing (grinding) with girls, but I f-ing don't unless im really into the girl or she is a daamn good dancer. I think its the combination of alcohol, dehydration and over-experience grinding with girls, which results in me just not getting hard.

A big part of my club/house party game has become flirting with girls then dragging them onto the dance floor in an alpha way. But if I don't get hard I feel like the girl loses interest (also im a grower not a shower which doesn't help).

I'm not sure if im the only one facing this issue or if girls actually don't care and im just not as good a dancer or good at attracting as i thought. It happens more often than i would like to admit and i kinda feel like there has been times when a girl was disappointed with my size/lack of erection when dancing.

Im not sure what im looking for from you guys with this question. Since joining this site a few months ago im quite comfortable with my game except in this area. I guess just some advice or someone to tell me whether this is normal or not/what i can do to fix this problem. Just your views are on grinding and getting hard would be appreciated.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Slick Rick-NZ

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Try asking a girl maybe? One you don't mind blowing your chance with though.
They are more likely to lye first so be firm to get the truth.
You are probly making it a bigger deal in your eyes than it is but you have a good point. I think there should be a time line after a few minutes.
Would it not be akward if a guy already had a bona before contact lol?
Try to tease her and say common most girls would have me hard by now in a joking kinda way. Hopfully that makes her work for it ect.
In a way it shows maturity and that you can hold your load.
But too long shows, well you get it grandad lol.
Remember there are other ways to impress women on the dance floor than just grinding your **** on her ass. Have fun spin her do different **** you know.
Slick..
 

crazyboy

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Most girls don't mine because most of them know. If you grind dudes **** long enough he going get hard. Most them would be turn off if you already hard though.
 
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