"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dance like your life depended on it!

kdnash82

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Tonight I went out to a club. Turned out to be an old peoples night (I'm 24 and it's a 30 and over night). Eitherway, I'm trying to talk to girls. Not going anywhere. Wits, charm, nothing. Only response I'm getting is that I'm too young.
I see a girl that I saw at a different club and chatted her up for a bit. Conversation is going well. None of the boring stuff. She's pretty much doing all of the talking. Her friend and the guy she was with came over. I introduce myself, tell them all it was nice to meet them, and excuse myself.

Immediately afterwards, her friend comes up to me and tells me that the girl I was originally talking to wants to dance with me. Merengue (latin type of dance). I'm not the best, but I'm good, and I dance my ass off like there is no tomorrow. As I'm spinning, I can see other girls sitting down watching us dance. Nothing but smiles on both of our faces and plenty of eye contact between us. After the song is over, I thanked her for the dance.

Before I could even get off the dance floor good, another girl was grabbing my hand and saying she was next. Same thing all over again. The girls that were saying I was too young not even 10 minutes ago were now asking me to dance.

Dancing got their attention, showed them I was the person they could have a good time with and enabled me to practice conversation and techniques I've learned from the site. I didn't make any closes, but honestly I'm not worried about it, because they're old. But I'd like to thank this site for giving me some inspiration and know how.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Here's something to consider, maybe it was your confidence that you showed through your dancing which got their attention. Latin dances are a powerful thing! :up:
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Here's something to consider, maybe it was your confidence that you showed through your dancing which got their attention. Latin dances are a powerful thing! :up:
yeah, what he said.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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