"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dance like your life depended on it!

kdnash82

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Tonight I went out to a club. Turned out to be an old peoples night (I'm 24 and it's a 30 and over night). Eitherway, I'm trying to talk to girls. Not going anywhere. Wits, charm, nothing. Only response I'm getting is that I'm too young.
I see a girl that I saw at a different club and chatted her up for a bit. Conversation is going well. None of the boring stuff. She's pretty much doing all of the talking. Her friend and the guy she was with came over. I introduce myself, tell them all it was nice to meet them, and excuse myself.

Immediately afterwards, her friend comes up to me and tells me that the girl I was originally talking to wants to dance with me. Merengue (latin type of dance). I'm not the best, but I'm good, and I dance my ass off like there is no tomorrow. As I'm spinning, I can see other girls sitting down watching us dance. Nothing but smiles on both of our faces and plenty of eye contact between us. After the song is over, I thanked her for the dance.

Before I could even get off the dance floor good, another girl was grabbing my hand and saying she was next. Same thing all over again. The girls that were saying I was too young not even 10 minutes ago were now asking me to dance.

Dancing got their attention, showed them I was the person they could have a good time with and enabled me to practice conversation and techniques I've learned from the site. I didn't make any closes, but honestly I'm not worried about it, because they're old. But I'd like to thank this site for giving me some inspiration and know how.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Here's something to consider, maybe it was your confidence that you showed through your dancing which got their attention. Latin dances are a powerful thing! :up:
 

comic_relief

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Here's something to consider, maybe it was your confidence that you showed through your dancing which got their attention. Latin dances are a powerful thing! :up:
yeah, what he said.

comic_relief
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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